while skids were growing up and living with bm, they treated their father like crap.

they hated the visitations with him even though they had no discipline and he was a disney dad who indulged every whim. i was the unpaid nanny, chauffeur and nurse while their father was at work.

as children they were given tons of allowance money only to want to spend it on gifts for their own stepfather, the man their mother left for while the stepfather was married. in fact they would argue on who would buy the best gift for their stepfather. (yes bm was a homewrecker for two marriages. the karma train ran her over when her second husband, who was already the father of several childen from his first wife,had an affair with yet another woman.)

as teens the skids disrespected their father while he kept silent and took it all. they laughed at his attempts to parent and "get involved." they failed to mail fathers day cards on time, or even to mail any at all, and laughed when he stated his disappointment saying, thats his tough luck. when he did not buy them enough things (electronics, clothes, handbags) they would punish him by not talking to him for months on end, and screen his calls on the cell phones he bought them. one time this went on for eight months. skid started returning calls as a birthday approached.

now skids are adults dh has forgotten all of this. to him the skids are all angels and great professional successes in spite of one skid getting kicked out of the military.