Oh he's her mini husband. That's obvious that they have an inappropriate relationship. If he's saying things a lover would say "Til death do us part" to her and she's eating it up, she's only encouraging him to keep treating her that way. It's very creepy and until SHE puts a stop to it, he's only going to keep at it and eventually get worse. He'll be extremely jealous of any man she dates and try to drive them away so he can have her all to himself. He'll plant himself in the middle of them physically any chance he can. He'll turn obsessively protective over her and he'll be the only man in her life because he'll push any others away.

It's the same way SD14 was with her dad. She thought it was going to be the two of them forever. He got an apartment after moving out and invited SD to help decorate and pick out furniture. He took her on "dates" to movies and dinner. It was the two of them for a long time before I came along. She was his mini wife. They always did everything together and had special "daddy daughter saturdays" where it was the two of them all day doing fun stuff together alone. She held his hand in a lover's hand hold (fingers interlaced), sat on his lap constantly, wouldn't let him out of her sight, followed him even to the bathroom! Tried spooning with him on the floor, her butt in his crotch, grabbing his arm and throwing it over her body, holding his hand fingers interlaced. They looked and behaved like a "couple". It was DISGUSTING. He felt she became extra clingy after the divorce and was just trying to make her more secure, but in reality, he was feeding her insecurities.

If BM likes the attention she's getting from her son, she's likely to stop. You can google inappropriate relationships between son/mother and forward them to her if you have that kind of communication with her. She's only hindering his independent growth as a boy.

You could always hotline it. Just remain annonymous. Maybe she'll get the point. You never know if something else could be going on!

I agree that that is over the top affection.

I worry about this with my SS as well. I blame it on BM because she uses him as an emotional crutch. My SS isn't as physically affectionate, but he does exessively tell her that he loves her (like multiple times in a row) and is always overly concerned about her emotional well being. He NEVER tells DH that he loves him... EVER. We, of course tell him and he will say in response. But it is never initiated by SS.

Funny you mention this today. It is something that has been bothering me the past couple of days.

There is a name for this behavior. I can't remember what it is though.

SS11 is undoubtedly in an inappropriately enmeshed relationship with the BM, engineered entirely by her. When he is old enough to have a girlfriend, BM will probably make him feel extremely guilty about this, and it will not go well.

It is extremely unhealthy for both of them, but she as an adult, is in charge and has a choice whether to behave like this or not. Poor SS11 doesn't, not really, and this is going to be disastrous for him, even more, when he hits puberty.

I watched a friend do this with her son. She divorced when the boy was about 3. He is now in his 40s. She has never remarried or even had a boyfriend. She is very attractive, well educated, great job. There's no reason for her to have spent decades alone.

And the son has had 3 divorces and no children. It does not have to be physical incest for it to be inappropriate. He's living with her yet again in a tiny little house.

Gross. My ds is 13-I cant imagine him saying or texting those sorts of things to me unless he was trying to be funny! He is a fairly affectionate boy as well-he does hug me and such-tells me he loves me-but often it is in a sorta joking way. that way he can maintain his coolness.

SS15 is like this with both of his parents. It's totally f'ing creepy. He is a mini-wife in both house *gag*