SS17 has ZERO social skills and VERY odd behavior
SS17 spends 90 percent of his free time in his room either playing video games or watching utube videos. DH had to force SS17 to get a job and had to hold his hand though the whole pre-job process. DH had to force SS17 to get his drivers permit and hold his hand through the whole process. SS17 has the Maturity of a 10 year old. I blame the fact BOTH bios spoiled and coddled SS from birth.
SS has never had a REAL friend. The closest SS ever had was in 5th grade and he had two "friends" he sat with during lunch but never did anything outside of school with these "friends". SS17 was always a bully/mean to other kids till around 5th grade when the kids got bigger and would punch back harder. I think SS17 would like friends but has no clue how to make them without daddy dearest doing it for him which won't work at SS17 age.
Both bios have created this spoiled entitled sheltered young adult who basically can't do anything remotely "adult" by himself. Opinions? Suggestions? Thoughts? Send one way airline ticket to anywhere?
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Does he live with you? Full time?
It sounds like your SS has
It sounds like your SS has been having interpersonal/social issues for years. Has his father or mother ever tried to get him some therapy or evaluation? At 17.. it has become pretty ingrained.
I will say that a lot of kids these days seem to be less advanced in their self starting/maturity.. those posts where people say.. "at my age, I was hitch hiking to the concert in the next state for the weekend.. my kid can't order his own meal at a restaurant".. kind of thing.
A lot of this is his parent's fault.. you don't know what you don't know.. but learning critical thinking.. independence.. self starting.. work ethic.. all things that are his parent's responsibility.. I don't see it as a school problem... they aren't the parents.
Nothing disabling the internet won't resolve.
Make his life a living hell. He will leave.
The one thing that will do that, take away his digital world and charge him with launching and figuring it out for himself.
Feed him, provide the basics. Which do not include connectivity.
There's something about
There's something about coddled CoDs who just don't meet milestones when their peers do. It's not uncommon for sparents on here to comment about how "strange their SKs are." I remember thinking how weird my SKs were and I realized it was because they weren't being parented properly. DH and BM competed over who could provide the most hedonistic life for the SKs. Sometimes one or both of the bio parents are narcissistic and create a dependency so that their kid can never leave them.
SD35 was always rammed up DH's ass. SD supposedly had friends in school but never did anything outside of school. SS didn't unitl he entered middle school. SS told DH and I that SD would get invited for hang outs with her school mates but would turn them down claiming that she had to be home straignt from school and wasn't allowed out. DH confronted her but she just did her deadpan face when she doesn't want to answer anything. It was because she was so clingy to DH that she just didn't want to be away from him for one second longer than her school day. She was like that in uni too. She actually did an extra year for her degree rather than go away to uni just so she could stay living with DH and spend all of her time with him. She didn't get a boyfriend until she was 24 and that lasted just over a year because the boyfriend broke up with SD because when they moved in together, SD had skype with DH open 24/7 so that she could CONSTANTLY chat with him and always have access to him. I remember almost leaving over that myself.
Your DH pushing your SS to get a job and DL despite having to hold his hand through the whole thing is hopeful because at least your DH got your SS to meet a couple of milestones. Yes, it's frustrating that your SS didn't seem to care about these things himself, but at least he met two milestones. Maybe your DH saw that your SS wasn't meeting milestones and wasn't about to let that continue. Are you able to talk to DH without getting your head ripped off?