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SS9 mad at me, should I care??

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Submitted by unwillingparticipant on Sat, 07/09/2011 - 7:03am

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My husband and I have full residential custody of his 9 year old son. Long story short, I was having a discussion about giving respect gets you respect & threw his INSANE grandmother into the discussion (i.e., your maternal grandmother isn't respectful). He's been "mad-at-me" for weeks & hasn't brought it up. Should I have a sit-down with him? Should I care?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 07/09/2011 - 9:21am

I agree with SM- it was not appropriate to use his grandma as an example and you should apologize to him. I also agree with SM about using the word "civil" instead of "respect."

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Sat, 07/09/2011 - 12:45pm

It's disrespectful to talk about someone elses family. I you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything, especially when dealing with a child. If you need to vent, talk to adults. You don't talk to kids about their family, no matter
what they are like.

Also, that's not how respect works. Giving respect doesn't get respect. Respect is earned.