I would like some advice please. My new husband of less than one year has told me he doesn't like my child. I am concerned as to what I can do about this.
How is that effecting the marriage and your relationship with your son? Just curious? How old is your child? Has he given specific reasons on why he does not like your child?
Happy
"live life to its fullest everyday"
We just had a friend that divorced her husband, they had their own child together but he totally treated the other one from her first marriage like crap. They all lived in the same home, it was very sad but she knew she had to get rid of this man. Your child comes first imo.
What was he thinking? Did he think if he married you that he would miraculously start liking the child? Or did he think that the child would just disappear after the wedding? I mean, why would you marry someone with a child you do not like? I don't get it. Fill us in on the details! Is this a serious dislike or just the annoyance that we all feel from time to time for our kids and skids alike?
~ Anne ~
"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)
So do you think he really doesn't like your son? Or do you think that he just disagrees with some of the things that your son does? Which ever one it is you two should definately sit down and talk about it. When you marry someone with children they come along with the person you are marrying point blank there is no other option. It's a package deal. Sit down and talk and find out what he really means and fill us in on the details.
I had the very same thing happen to me in my last marriage. My boys were 3 and 5 when ex and I met. He acted like the best SDad that ever lived. Two months after giving up my apartment and marrying this jerk he tells me he doesn't like kids and wanted me to give up the custody of the boys to my Dad. Well I packed his ass and rest of his belongings up and sent him out the door. We were separated for 3 months before he came crawling back crying he didn't mean what he said and actually loved the boys. Like a dumb ass I gave him a second chance. He mistreated my children horribly when I wasn't around. Did you ever see the movie Radio Flyer. Well that was my boys. I was so busy working that I never noticed he was abusing them. He warned them never to say a word to me. I never allowed him to spank my children but obviously he did when I wasn't around. My boys are grown now and have told me so many horrible things about him I feel like a fool. Why did I never see this?
I tell you this because I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. My boys turned out to be awesome adults however we all went through hell because of this jerk. My boys were good little beautiful children who did not deserve to be treated like they were. After I threw this man out once again I refused to see him again. God help him if I ever lay eyes on him again.
he told you that?
How is that effecting the marriage and your relationship with your son? Just curious? How old is your child? Has he given specific reasons on why he does not like your child?
Happy
"live life to its fullest everyday"
Drop Him
We just had a friend that divorced her husband, they had their own child together but he totally treated the other one from her first marriage like crap. They all lived in the same home, it was very sad but she knew she had to get rid of this man. Your child comes first imo.
What was he thinking? Did
What was he thinking? Did he think if he married you that he would miraculously start liking the child? Or did he think that the child would just disappear after the wedding? I mean, why would you marry someone with a child you do not like? I don't get it. Fill us in on the details! Is this a serious dislike or just the annoyance that we all feel from time to time for our kids and skids alike?
~ Anne ~
"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)
More detals would be very
More detals would be very helpful.
~ Katrina
So do you think he really
So do you think he really doesn't like your son? Or do you think that he just disagrees with some of the things that your son does? Which ever one it is you two should definately sit down and talk about it. When you marry someone with children they come along with the person you are marrying point blank there is no other option. It's a package deal. Sit down and talk and find out what he really means and fill us in on the details.
*Stepmom101*
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I had the very same thing happen to me in my last marriage. My boys were 3 and 5 when ex and I met. He acted like the best SDad that ever lived. Two months after giving up my apartment and marrying this jerk he tells me he doesn't like kids and wanted me to give up the custody of the boys to my Dad. Well I packed his ass and rest of his belongings up and sent him out the door. We were separated for 3 months before he came crawling back crying he didn't mean what he said and actually loved the boys. Like a dumb ass I gave him a second chance. He mistreated my children horribly when I wasn't around. Did you ever see the movie Radio Flyer. Well that was my boys. I was so busy working that I never noticed he was abusing them. He warned them never to say a word to me. I never allowed him to spank my children but obviously he did when I wasn't around. My boys are grown now and have told me so many horrible things about him I feel like a fool. Why did I never see this?
I tell you this because I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. My boys turned out to be awesome adults however we all went through hell because of this jerk. My boys were good little beautiful children who did not deserve to be treated like they were. After I threw this man out once again I refused to see him again. God help him if I ever lay eyes on him again.