Hi. I'm really starting to like this webpage a lot! Wish I found it sooner! I'm pretty new on here but brief info about me- again, I'm a step mom of 2 preteen girls 12&14. Bm remarried 8 years ago and my dh and I been together for almost 7 years. Everything is mostly good, no bm drama for a good 3/4 years now. We all just want to have peace and a good life as hard as it can be sometimes. Kids live with their mom but we are involved in everything and see them more than court order minimum standards.

Anyway, I get along with bm and we are kind and talk about the kids as my dh and her have had issues for years communicating. They have tried many times , blocking unblocking and frankly idk how they ever were together but that's another topic so for the most part if there's extra days my dh wants or need to discuss holiday planning ect she texts/calls me and things work out really well. I know some may think this is odd but communicate well and dh and her butt heads and always end up arguing.

Anyway, she does call and text dh as well but it's not often. Last 2 times were about kids being sick (one went to the hospital for being overly dehydrated and my dh met her at the hospital), and now the last few days has been texting and calling about a new issue with the younger daughter. I totally encourage them to talk and I'm glad they are more lately! But I think I'm kind of the peace maker ? I don't mind , makes life sooo much easier.

So a quick background about the younger daughter who is now 12. Since I've known her since she was 4 going on 5, she's always had some emotional issues going on. From things from punching herself, tantrums, screaming misbehaving, at 7 told us her stepdad showed her his penis and cps got involved and she admitted it was a total lie, and most recently a few weeks ago told me her mom bashes dad all the time-which again total lies and drama (I asked bm and we confronted her together). I remember a few years ago her school had a Valentine's day dance and she was picking fights with these 2 other little girls right in front of me and when I dropped her off home she tells her mom she was getting picked on. She's been through counseling on and off for a good 4 years but I think her mom mostly agreed to make dh happy since there were always issues at our house. She's had no issues at all for a good 8 months and I personally see a lot of growth. I think she's a great sweet kid with a huge heart, BUT I still can't forget all the drama filled times in the past. Of course her mother thinks she's perfect and believes everything. I do not have children of my own yet so maybe I'm seeing things differently I'm not sure.

Anyway, what I'm getting into is the recent phone calls with my dh. I have no one in my life that's a step or even has even talked about kid issues like we have had in the past so with this little info, please give your honest feedback...
So apparently there's this other little girl in her class that she's been friends on and off with. A few days ago, she said she went into the school bathrooms with her and since the lock on the bathroom stall was broken she asked this other girl to hold the door. Apparently, this little girl kept opening the door begging my sd to "see her butt and vagina". My sd claims she was yelling and kicking to get her away. So she told on her and social worker got involved claiming my sd was lying & didn't call bm until the end of the day. Bm freaked and took off work to demand a meeting to get my sd away from this girl and says she's calling cps on this girls parents. This little girl is denying this but yet bm is outraged that the school is doing nothing and only made a meeting with her because she threatened to call the cops.She says principle told bm this little girl has some type of mental issues they are already aware of. She was on the phone w my dh a good half hour and I heard most of it and it didn't really make sense. Seems like something is missing. Also, the teacher called bm and left a vm stating they are keeping her daughter "safe". I'm sorry this is all so vague but that's The thing, I feel like this whole story something is missing and I am staying out of it but something just doesn't seem right. Am I wrong to think my sd could make up such drama? I mean I've literally heard her tell this little girl on instagram live that she would "stab her". Feel like bm doesn't see all the drama sides to her own daughter! I really dont want my dh to go into the school ranting with bm and looking stupid because they are in denial it could be their own kid causing issues.