Hi again,
I'm a step mom of 2 preteen girls 12&14. Bm remarried 8 years ago and my dh and I been together for almost 7 years. Everything is mostly good, no bm drama but there is one topic that bm constantlyyyy brings up. She's civil w dh but there's many topics she talks to me about and i feel like I keep defending dh and repeating myself.

Basically dh has always done all pick up/drop offs w kids, not a huge deal since they live so close but would be nice if she helped w transporting...but we do plan to move about 30 min away by next year (Not 100% sure but we want out of this town for several reasons, bm says she's moving too but all that is up in the air).

Anyway the 12 year old has been in gymnastics for about 3 years now. She is really good and enjoys it. We go to all her events. 14 year old doesn't really do sports anymore and quits everything. We use to take her to one practice a week as it fell on dh visitation day, but now since she's moved up the days switched. The classes are 3 hours long and sd doesn't like us to watch just drop off,look away,wait in car or just come back. It sucked lol. We had to rush rush rush drive back and forth to another town and it was not quality time with little time my dh gets with them so dh asked bm to choose other days for practices and bm did. There's several days monday-sat u can choose practices....anyway bm constantly brings up to me how it would convenience her if we started bringing her again as her dh can't drive (license suspended for child support arrears).

I explained how it makes those visitation days cut short and there's no quality time/nor can we ever make plans on Fridays or saturdays(dhs words)..she dramatizes and tells sd how dad won't take her and tells me how badly 12 year old wants us to take her-yet she's never expressed that to us let alone wants us to watch. I just don't really respond anymore when she brings it up but seems she can't drop the subject with me. Ugh more of a vent I guess.