i found this over the weekend and downloaded it to my kindle and im already nearly done with it.
im sure someone has mentioned this book before- but i had to share anyway. this has turned a lot around for me... pretty immediately. it has confirmed that i am not alone in my thoughts and that things can get better.

http://www.amazon.com/Stepmonster-Look-Real-Stepmothers-Think/dp/0618758194