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Was I wrong not to trust him?

justanotherstepstory's picture

Whenever his kids would misbehave he would side with them over half of them time and get very angry with me for bringing. Sometimes he would ever threaten to kick me out of his house for trying to address his kids behaviors with him. I also caug him not being forthcoming with having his ex over. Granted she came over to see her kids but she stayed for dinner when I was not there. He would never mention this to me and when I found out he got very angry with me and told me I was being possessive and controlling. Was I crazy not to trust him?

Winterglow's picture

No, not crazy at all. Why are you doubting yourself? Personally, I'd have been gone for good the first time he threatened to kick me out.

Winterglow's picture

No, not crazy at all. Why are you doubting yourself? Personally, I'd have been gone for good the first time he threatened to kick me out.

Winterglow's picture

All  that matters  is that you left. 

Be kind to yourself. Don't waste any more time overthinking what is in your rear mirror. 

justmakingthebest's picture

The fact that your partner threatened to kick you out- that alone is enough reason for me to say you need an escape plan. You were 100% right to leave. You don't threaten your partner in life. No marriage/relationship can thrive if there is fear like that. 

ndc's picture

You were absolutely right not to trust him. He wasn't much of a partner if he threatened to kick you out when you brought up something he didn't like. And keeping dinners with the ex from you is not exactly forthcoming. You're best rid of him - don't doubt it.

StepUltimate's picture

You did the right thing leaving that jerk & staying in counseling. I am glad you found a 100% upgraded man, too!

BethAnne's picture

Doesn't matter. He has been proven not to have been worthy of your trust. You are out of the relationship. It is over and there is no use in questioning what you did or did not do. Just move forwards with more knowledge. 

Moving forwards, stick up for yourself. Expect that you are placed ahead of children, expect that you are believed ahead of children and when those expectations are not met, leave that man behind and find someone who knows how to respect you. Also leave when they feel they can hold the threat of ending the relationship over your head. Healthy relationships do not consist of threats and ultimatums - that is not normal - it is a form of manipulation and control.

markwvualum's picture

You were right not to trust him. Be glad that jerk is in your past and don't look back. When you don't have trust you have nothing and you were one hundred percent right not to trust him. Bye bye into the rear view mirror.

relationshipguru's picture

No you weren't wrong not to trust him. You were wrong not to leave the first time you caught him hiding things from you and when he sided with his ill behaved little brats over you and threatened to kick you out of his house for it. Good riddance to that loser.