What do you consider HAPPY?
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We are all here with all our behind closed doors drama. But at the end of the day, when you come home, or your DH comes home, what is happiness for you? What keeps you going (besides your own bio kids)? Looking back, did you see signs that maybe you shouldn't have married or chose this life and ignored them? What were they? What do you know now that you wish you knew then? One thing for me, is we used to laugh. Just talk and laugh over a glass of wine. We have lost that. I can't think of a single reason anymore to stay.
Any day we don't hear from
Any day we don't hear from the nasty annoying c-u-n-t BM is a happy day that's how low my standards are right now. Our relationship is failing epically and this after only be back together for 8 months this is after a 18 month separation and counseling and little by little the boundaries are falling, I am retreating into my own place, SO and I are fighting more then ever.
Why? I don't know, we have a CO, he is paying his support yet he continues to ride the BM mood roller coaster.Last weekend he wanted to set her on fire this weekend they are all BFF's. Example at yss basketball practice I guess she started talking about her person life and boyfriend. (IDK why they do that) yet after MANY sessions on this and SO being told by the therapist to politely tell her you are not interested he listens and chat with her. WTF his reasoning, something to file away to use against her. If you don't care what she is doing what do need to use against her.
Happy is starting and ending
Happy is starting and ending the day on the same page as my bride. We are not always on the same page but usually we are no more than a few lines apart on the page.
It is work, it is effort, the laughs are amazing, the tension an disagreements are powerful, but living life together is an amazing adventure.
Now that the Skid (SS-22) is on his own and we have no use or interface with the Sperm Clan happy is pretty much a regular state these days. Except for work. That crap just pisses me off sometimes.
I like this post! My HAPPY
I like this post!
My HAPPY is at night after the kids are in bed and hubby and I snuggle up and watch our favorite shows together. He usually falls asleep way before I do but those moments when we are together I am happy. I am happy at our family dinner every night and we talk to each other like normal people and a normal family and there isn't tension or BM dealings, or skids dealings. Just him, my bios, and I being normal and happy.
My happy is the text I get from him every morning "good morning beautiful...."
It's nice to take a minute to reflect on the good stuff and not the awful stuff that we allow ourselves in blended families to get completely sucked into all the freaking time.
My happy is being around my
My happy is being around my partner who will be my husband soon, happy is doing family days out with the skids. Happy is planning our future children. Doing the little things together such as cooking to booking our honeymoons and dreaming about what our life will be like in 20 years. I love when all 4 of us (2 skids) all can chill have have a drama free dinner
Awww you guys are awesome.
Awww you guys are awesome. Sometimes it is nice to sit back and think about the things that make us happy instead of dwell on the negatives in our lives. I am trying to get back to HAPPY with my SO. It is SO much work. If I am not "mom" to him and control and take charge of every aspect of our relationship, then it is non existent. I am exhausted and worn down. We are not married and no bio's together so I am reflecting on if it is time to move on before we are in any deeper. We do live together. Wondering if listening to stories of others can jog those happy thoughts or allow me to let go a little and realize maybe I am happier than I realize. So keep on with your stories, they make me smile