Good Morning! I have been on this website lurking! However, I do think I need some advice from someone who might have been or is in my shoes. I am at a totally loss as to what to do next. Brief history: married for 10 years had 3 boys divorced moved back to Texas, then married a man for 16 years boys lived with us, his daughters lived with us, good/bad relationship, but it did end. My youngest son was 1 when my ex and I got married so basically that was the only dad he knew. 2nd husband left, just me and my son other two were out of the house, hurricane hits, destroys EVERYTHING we have including our home, live in our motorhome for 6 months, move home and I was dating on and off. Met man, dated, he started staying over, then staying over turned into sort of moving in, then moved in, then married. During this time my son was okay with it, but he started to try and tell him what to do, give him rules, etc. and be a dad so to speak. Well of course son said I don't need a dad, then trouble started. So, son would do stuff to piss him off and he would do stuff to piss son off, I am caught in the middle. He is telling me my whole family controls me, my mother was my best friend. So, we have a huge fight in October I kick him out he says HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE things about my kids, me and my family (I know out of anger)so, after a month of crying, etc., he moved home, son said he would not live there moved to grandma's, I was made to choose either them or him? Holidays horrible. Son is now coming home and DH is mad. He has two kids that come every other weekend, even when he works (shift work) they are there I take care of them, etc., don't mind b/c I get it, but why should I have to chose? Who would you chose, what is the right thing? Lost and confused!