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Submitted by Marianabt on Sun, 08/23/2020 - 6:40pm

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My husband told me today that his business is going to his son who is 17 it was random and weird he just told me he is training him and going to put all his businesses in his name when he is a little older . We have a little boy together btw .I dont care about his business  or what he have but it's messed up to tell ur wife that  everything is for his son from his first marriage. This man made me give up my career and move across the country to be with him . Now I feel like I regret leaving my job for someone like this. I dont know what to feel about this.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sun, 08/23/2020 - 8:48pm

What about all of his other kids? Is he going to leave any of them anything? How many other kids does he actually have - your two previous posts gave differing numbers.

In any case, you should talk to an estate lawyer and insist your DH draw up a will that will include your child that you have with him as well as yourself.

 

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Submitted by relationshipguru on Sun, 08/23/2020 - 9:59pm

One of the worst decisions one can make is giving up everything they have and moving for a single/divorced parent. Often one will give up so much and get little in return. I am so sorry.

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 08/26/2020 - 3:14pm

Get a lawyer and get it all.  He has told you that you and your child don't matter.  Believe him.

Do what is necessary to protect your interests and the interests of your child.

Next time, choose a better man to father your children.

Once you file for divorce go back to your career.  Keep all of your income and most of his.... after you take the assets and his businesses, or  at least half of their value.

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Submitted by Dave02Dad on Mon, 08/24/2020 - 2:53pm

Have you asked him what about the son you have together?  Perhaps he can become 50% owner when he gets older and that can be drawn up now.  If he doesn't care about your son, then he obviously doesn't love either of you. Might be time to see a lawyer since as his spouse (depending on the state you live in), you own half of his business already Smile  

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Submitted by BethAnne on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 9:50am

I don't know that I would jump to the divorce lawyers just yet, but I would have a conversation with him about if he has any plans to do something similar for your son. It is also worth discussing what sort of time frame he is thinking, his motivations and if he is going to attach any conditions to this or if it is a done deal in his head. Also it is worth working out if your ss is interested in running the buisness, he may want to do his own thing. 

If you two don't have a plan for the future and retirement then it is time to talk about that too.

If you want to start up your career again then go for it.