When SK is sick
I just have to vent or I'm going to explode!!! It's 3:45 in the morning and I've been up all night with a sick baby while SO snoozes away without a care in the world. The reason I'm so angry is this could have all been avoided if anyone would ever listen to SD 9 is constantly getting sick and refuses to listen to my pleas to keep away from the baby when she's sick. Now my baby is up all night unable to breath choking on her mucus & even threw up her whole bottle from coughing and gaging. The worst part is I can't say anything to SO because when it comes to SD he is ridiculous. Things he has said include his daughter is perfect ”everyone says so” ughhh gag me. Last weekend I am pretty positive SD gave the baby an old bottle when I walked in room SD had it in her hands baby had a trace of milk on her mouth and when I took it to put away from SD I touched the nipple and it was warm. So I ask SD did you give this to her because it was old and can make her sick. Of course SD says no, so I ask what happened to the cap that was on it and she starts her um um well it fell on the floor and the cap fell off, I knew she was lying but what can I do accuse her??? That would get me nowhere around here anyway. This is the kid that even when your watching her do something she shouldn't be doing still tells you she isn't doing it. So of course baby just happened to get an awful stomach ache that night and was passing gas and screaming like crazy. SO asks what's the matter with her I tell him she's got a stomach ache and that I think SD may have given her an old bottle. Which in a predicted fashion he gets angry at me for even suggesting his perfect little princess could have done something wrong so he says to me well who's the asshole that left the bottle out in the first place, ughhhh. Really how about SD isn't a little baby and shouldn't be giving her something without asking. What makes me crazy is SO knows she can be a pain and fibs when it comes to her doing something wrong the problem is only he can call her out I have to bite my tongue constantly. So now what kills me is this ridiculous game SD, SO & BM play. SD comes over she of course starts kissing baby all over her face because she has a friend over and wants to play cool big sister but right after she is kissing baby she starts coughing and I say are you getting sick response is no just a tickle in my throat. So I offer her some water and her and friend go off to play. Of course I hear SD coughing her head off the entire afternoon and by the time whe sit down to dinner I say to SO I think she's sick. SO why do you say that me because she's been hacking up a lung since she walked in the door. Right on cue SD walks in coughing SD are you sick no just a tickle in my throat as she's coughing and sucking up snot through her nose. SO you don't sound so good you better take some cold medicine. SD is that the stuff that tastes bad the one I have at home tastes much better I took some this morning. Hmmm you took cold medicine this morning yet you didn't know you were sick wtf??? Also she's actually done something just like this twice now. So after dinner I hear SO on phone with BM just giving her the heads up that SD is sick and I can tell BM is acting like she had no clue.... Hellooooo she gave SD cold medicine that morning she already knew she was sick what is the matter with these people. So of course I have to be the the germ police and try to keep up with cleaning everywhere she's touching and I have to be the jerk and keep reminding her to keep distance from baby. Problem is every time I walked away from baby for one minute there she was in her face rubbing her snot hands alk over hers. I went to the bathroom and SD walks right by SO and heads into babies room coughing all over the place hanging herself on side rail of crib rubbing and spewing germs everywhere does SO care nope just lets her do whatever she wants with no regards to his other daughters well being. I walk in and see this and honestly steam must have come out of my ears but I kept a cool head said good morning to SD took out a baby wipe and wiped of babies hands and face and then wiped down crib right in front of SD so she got the point helloooo dumb ass how many times do you have to be told stay away from baby when you are sick!!!!!! Sorry for the long rant just really needed to get that out.
Unfortunately SO shares
Unfortunately SO shares custody so she's hear half the week but I just don't understand why she just can't listen and stay away from baby when she's sick, why SO doesn't step in I feel like SO, BM & SD are just all completely oblivious and it drives me crazy. I just don't even know how to handle them if I have to keep telling SD to keep away then everyone is looking at me like I'm the jerk. If I try to talk to SO he jumps down my throat. Honestly because of his ridiculous behavior regarding SD I really have just started to dislike SD because I can't treat her like a normal child I have to treat her as if she is perfect or SO says I don't like her. I used to like her until all this nonsense started with Dad anytime a small situation would come up regarding SD there was no discussing it or my ass got handed to me. Dealing with that and SD's manipulative behavior, mini wife syndrome and always trying to push me aside to have her dad & our daughter all to herself sadly I don't like her anymore. I feel so awkward when she's around, example of awkward situations Sunday mornings if me and SO are in bed and baby is in there with us she comes to door walks in say good morning to dad I say good morning no response then just stands awkwardly at the end of the bed pacing back and forth if I get up for even a second she jumps in bed on my side lays on my pillow and just gives me this look when I go to get back in bed and just lays there. I don't say a word just pick up baby and say lets go change your diaper and let her do as she wishes. There are so many situations like that that happen on a regular basis and honestly I don't even know myself anymore if it's truly awkward or my disdain for her making me perceive it that way.
I knew I would never love her
I knew I would never love her as my own but the way he acts and expects me to act towards her doesn't make any sense you want me to be a parent to her but he prevents that and thanks to all that she's perfect crap I don't even want to be around her I don't want her around our daughter and I just can't help but feel like that no matter how much I try to tell myself to be understanding.
My SD is sick every other
My SD is sick every other week, I don't know what to do I can't say anything but honestly I don't want my baby getting sick all the time. Last night and today have been awful because not only is she sick she's teething and she's been throwing up because she's choking on mucus. It all could have been avoided if anyone would listen to me. I really want to tell SD from now on no kissing baby period and you must wash your hands anytime you play with baby and when you are sick you are not to go near her, her things or her room. The only problem is if I said that out loud it would start a war. Ughhh stuck between a rock and a hard place.
This is not my first child I
This is not my first child I have a bio son that lives with us full time & the one time he was sick SO complained about him being in the living room with the rest of the family spewing his germs into the air. Second bottle was on the coffee table baby was in her bouncer SD was watching tv in same room I walked out of the room into the kitchen for a minute to check on the chicken in the oven if the bottle would have hit the wood floor I would have heard it I was 10 feet away around the corner. I'm sorry that you have a compromised immune system SD has not been diagnosed with any such thing I think her only problem is a lack of washing her hands. Also I did try to be friends with her at first and we were friends but little
by little she started trying to get her father to be upset with me lies saying I told her she could do things when I didn't never admits to anything she does even when you're watching her do it and tries to blame other people and best of all has been trying to get my baby to call me by my first name. I understood a lot of that is normal kid stuff and if I was allowed to treat her the same way I would my own child, somethings wouldn't bother me as much. SO has no problem letting me know anytime my son does anything wrong he can't even leave a sweat shirt on a kitchen chair without him letting me know & god forbid he forgets a light on. On the other hand SD leaves shoes laying around for others to trip on lights on in every room she's been in cups laying around but none of this is seen by DH honestly the only reasons any of that bothers me is because of So's constant nagging about my son because I am a reasonable adult and know children do these things. I do try and be understanding but one could only take so much being corrected by a child and snotty comments that SO finds amusing but if my child made them they wouldn't be received the same way. Like I said before the main reason I have started to feel disdain for the child is because of SO although the annoying part she takes care of in her own. As far as her hating me because I don't want her spreading her germs to the baby let her I don't care I think it's ridiculous I should let my baby get sick to spare her feelings. because
Believe me I know kids get
Believe me I know kids get sick but she has a nasty cough with this cold I do my best to get her to wash her hands but if you wash them then cough into them 5 min later they are germ infested again. Normally I don't say anything but when your coughing up a lung is it such a big deal to do as your asked and keep your distance for a few days until your cough is gone. I don't know but I have to say being a step parent is one of the hardest positions to be in especially when SO can be such an ass.