When I met my husband he was a single father with sole custody of his 3 year old son. The BM drifted in and out of the boy's life showing interest only when it was convienient and moving back and forth across the country. My husband's parents did nothing with their only grandchild. They had never babysat him in his entire life. When we first started dating we could rarely go anywhere because he never had anyone to watch his son. There were days when he had to be at work at 4 AM to supervise snow removal and he had to take his son with him because his parents would not help out and daycare wasn't open unil six. No: one helped him out at all when he really needed it.
Enter me: I have a child of my own and work at a school so my hours were great for somebody with kids. We got engaged,I moved in,we got married and I lifted a lot of weight from his shoulders. I did not mind at all. I have done everything for this child and believe me it is not easy. (see my other posts)I take him to and from school, go to a million meetings there and take him to hundreds of appointments. I wash his clothes, cook his food, help with homework, anything I do for my own son. So why now when my husband does not need their help does the BM and the in-laws feel the need to butt in where they are not needed and give me lots of advice? The BM is not too bad. Shes bipolar and goes on tangents about why she's not included in school meetings and functions but that is fleeting. Sometimes she will tell me I need to get my SS's haircut and other stupid crap like that. The inlaws are much worse. Always giving me "advice" and telling me what I am doing wrong. They now want to take him to church with them. They are always up in my business regarding their gradson. I am sorry but where were you the first 4 years of this kids life before I lived here? Now you want some say? I do not tolerate their sh** at all but they are driving me as crazy as they are and the whole thing just really pisses me off.