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WTF Normal for step to be so needy????

Crazystep30's picture

The older SS gets the more Clingy needy he seems to get to DH. Go out to dinner SS has to sit next to DH. Go out to the movies SS has to sit next to DH. Go out walking somewhere SS has to walk next to DH and I get to walk behind them. Now SS is 12 not 4! SS has NO friends so he’s 24/7 up DHs ass. We live in SS’s school district in a LARGE family Neighborhood with lots of kids. SS has no interest in riding his bike to see if he can make some friends or find kids from school. He can’t even play up in his room without daddy. When SS is over I know I won’t get my husband’s ear till that brat leaves as he demands constant attention. I’ve NEVER seen a 12 yr old that Is unable to entertain themselves. Rant over...

SteppedOut's picture

Seems to be kind-of normal as long as daddeeee allows it. 

They want ALL of the time and to exclude the "outsider" as much as possible. Just like we used to do daddddeeeee. (You know, before SHE was here.)

sunshinex's picture

No no no. 

Don't allow him to sit next to/walk next to DH when you go on walks. My SD walks ahead of us/sits on the chair while we cuddle on the couch/etc. because we remind her that we need couple time and she's a big girl. She's 7. It's totally normal, even in in-tact families, for older kids to be expected to give mom/dad space as they're the couple. 

thinkthrice's picture

marking his territory.   Do not walk behind them. I made this mistake in the early years.   Skids would call shotgun and want to be next to daaaadddeeeee.  In an intact family, children normally learn their place

  This has to be reestablished for biodad and skids

 

ctnmom's picture

I think this member would benefit from your stepkid list you periodically post on here.

Jcksjj's picture

SD used to pull this crap alot. Cried because she wasnt the one sitting next to daddy on the couch, was constantly walking in front of me and would basically trip me when we would go places so that she was the right behind daddy. I tell her to walk behind me now. 

Rags's picture

Not normal at all. And needs to end immediately. Your place is at your DH's side. That is not the place for a pre-teen boy.