BMS power still off, DH messaged her and arranged it with her that skids would be staying with me at night so they can sleep in their own beds since school has started. And that she needs to get a job and start providing for her kids better. He can’t call CPS on her since they are not sleeping there and she can prove they stay with us or at her boyfriend’s house. So they are still getting what they need, just not BM providing it....grrr... anyways. Kids do fine for me. They eat if BM not fed them yet, and get either 30-45 mins of tv or xbox IF they have enough time sometimes they get to my house late or something is going on. They Shower and go to bed...
Now the skids are starting to get homesick and miss there mommy at bedtime.....So what does BM do????? Moves their beds to her boyfriend’s house that she has only been dating for less than 3 months. That’s not her fixing the problem that is her putting the problem off on her new guy. DH lost his cool. Told her he has been very patient with her and allowed a lot of things to go on that he shouldn’t so the kids wouldn’t get upset, but now he has to look out for their wellbeing. He is going for full custody. She threw a fit and pretty much told him good luck with that i will get you my lawyers info Monday ( she can’t pay for power but she has a lawyer?) Our lawyer is very well known and has a lot of pull in our community and happens to be my mom’s cousin. I also know all the judges in town from my previous job and still talk to them at my current job. I’d like to think we have a good case, but I also know that it’s very hard for a bio dad to get full custody from a BM so I am very worried. Plus DH doesn’t have any legal ties to SS since he isn’t really DHs but the real dad is not in the pic, but we do have proof that BM fills out school forms and Medical forms as DH as SSs dad. I don’t know if that matters or not. It’s just such a big chance for us to take and DH has already said that he doesn’t want to take them from their mother at all that would hurt skids so much, but he can’t just not do anything anymore....
I have never had to deal with/ witness any of their legal custody stuff before. I know stuff from being on here for a while now but that’s the only “experience” I have with the matter at hand. I know its BM and DHs problem and not mine. I am fine with that but DH does ask for my incites and help and all I can really do is tell him what I think or what I would do if I was him. When it comes down to it its all on him and BM and our finances. I don’t know how to help DH where to go from here and still waiting to hear from my cousin.