I'm just wondering how this has gone for others. I am in the process of adopting my step children. The BM has refused to sign the concent form so it has now been filed with the court requesting the adoption without her concent. This has been done based on the Indiana law that says the Judge can grant the adoption without concent if the bio-parent has not supported the child financially OR (not AND) has not had "significant" contact with the child for a period of 1 year or more (courts here do not consider a letter once in a while or a 5 minute phone call every few weeks as significant). In our case, the BM has only seen the children for 1 hour in the last 16 months (that was 13 months ago) and has had ZERO contact with them for 10 months (no phone calls, letters, christmas cards, NOTHING). Hearing is coming up in a few weeks -- Would love to hear how this has turned out for others.

Also -- This whole process was started at the request of 2 of the children who are now teenagers. The BM gave them up to their dad less than 2 months after the divorce in 2008. This is the 3rd time the BM has stopped contact for extended periods of time since giving them up. The first were just months, now it has been over a year. The children do not want her just popping in and out of their lives whenever she feels like it. There has been a lot of emotional stress on them since the beginning with all the ups and downs. She has written letters to them when they were visiting her house and she got mad at them, telling them to "ask to not have to come back to her house" (in July 2009). Then we received a letter sent overnite service in July 2010 telling us the 2 boys (teenagers) are "no longer allowed in her home" and demanding to take ONLY SD6 for visitation. She is just CRAZY = and was told by DH that "no parents can pic-n-choose their children" and he would not allow her to either!