I wish I would have been introduced to this site when I first met my dh. My whole life I've always loved children, if someone had a baby and came to my house id be right there taking care of it with out any hesitation. So when my future dh told me he had a 2 year old and (mind you this is in October2012) he had told me that ss hasn't seen her son since easter and that he wanted and needed a companion that can offer a mother figure in his life. .. me thinking I love kids and this should come natural was oh so wrong. Yes I love kids and babies but for some reason god had to send me the one kid that does not like me at all and vice versa... the second time we met he was introducing his son to me and saying hey look ss its mommy!!!! And while my dh was at work his mom would watch him. .. but then when I came into the picture his mom thought that I should be the one be taking care of him even when I had to go to work she would be pissed that she had to be with him. ..but now bm has been in his life alot more since then and she has a boyfriend and what not but just recently Last week was the first time she saw him again in a month. The last time she saw him before last week was the week before Halloween. .. sometimes I'm like why the fuck don't you just take care of your child like my dh works all day gets home at 5 everyday and now his work has increased his work hours a couple of days during each month now and it's like why can't he just be with his mom. ...if he's literally going to not be here cuz of work why the hell do I keep watching him. ...I feel like I've just dug my self a hole and now is just expected to do it and if I don't them that means I don't love him. .. which is true. .. or they will interpretation it in a way that will make me look like a bad person