DH and I have been married for 10 blissful months. We met 1 1/2 years ago and we are just crazy about one another. My 20 yr. old daughter loves her step dad and we visit her in college (Austin) frequently. BD is a joy and is an honors student who just aced the LSAT!! The problem is mostly with SD (30) from hell and occasionally SS (35). The SD is married to an illegal alien, has two children with one more on the way and is a constant source of pain. She does not immunize her kids, discipline her kids or really take care of them. They are so embarrassingly misbehaved that we can't go anywhere in public with them. The problem started before I ever met the SD. The BM was the local slut who ran around on my husband constantly. This is a small town and everyone knew about it and it was quite painful for him. In fact, once the school bus driver called DH to tell him to have his wife move her vehicle out of the middle of the road as she was trying to steer the bus around it while the BM was having sex in the car with one of her BF. Needless to say, the break up (10 years+) ago was not pretty. When the two children were older BM told them the reason she had to move out of town and get a divorce was because my DH had too many girlfriends. DH had to set the record straight some years ago and let them know that she followed one of her BF to Oklahoma to live and took the SD. Yeah, she is a Jerry Springer white trash piece of work!!! DH was so smitten with me when we met that he called his daughter to tell her he wanted her to meet me that he had met the love of his life. That, needless to say, did not go well...she was cold, rude, never offered me a seat or a bathroom or a drink after a 6 hour drive!!! The situation only became worse as time went by. The first weekend with my fiance, SD, along with a cousin (by marriage) of DH decided they would pay us a visit and stay at the house. I was never asked, I was told they were coming. The cousin is a foul-mouthed nosy strange duck. She is always in everyone's business and was so jealous of me that the SD and cousin were finally told by DH to leave if they could not treat me better. Cousin apologized but SD never did. Cousin (who I think is not-so-secretly in love with my DH) planned to host a surprise 60th bday party for my DH and his cousin (married to the foul mouth) on DH's bday. Never told me until almost last minute. DH and I already had plans to move BD to sorority house (only time we could do it) so I told the cousin and SD that we needed to change the date. They refused and said they would host party without me coming. I finally had to inform DH of the plans and he had to have a talk with his daughter. She lied and said I knew of the plans all along as the cousin had told me (total BS). Cousin had been talking to DH before I was in the picture about her marriage woes to DH's cousin and how she wanted a divorce...I am thinking now she was really trying to make a play for DH. YIKES!!! I kept trying to be nice to both of these idiots and actually asked the SD to be in our wedding and I paid for a nice Vegas trip for all. SD just never got any better; she got DWI and I insisted upon helping her financially. I gave SS and SD tons of money thinking I might be able to buy their affection. SD continued to speak horribly about me to other in laws and I finally blew my stack when she made up a lie which was told to a niece in law. DH called SD and told her that she needed to explain why she said what she said about me. He handed me the phone and I asked where she had heard such a story. She first said her dad told her, then she said someone else told her and finally she had the nerve to say that she thought maybe she had heard it from me????? This was all in the same sentence, I never said another word but just handed the phone to my DH. I told DH I will not have a relationship with her or the cousin again!!! He totally supports me (LOVE THIS MAN) and knows if he wants to see these two, it is without me. He refuses to do it though which makes me feel guilty!!! This SD is having another baby with the illegal (she can't afford the first two and gets money from us, although not like she used to) We pay for their car insurance and occassional car repair bills and that is it. She had the nerve to ask her dad to pay to have one of her tattoos removed as she was "tired of it." I know, right?? The dilemma is, she is about to give birth and i DO NOT want to meet the new child; does this make me a bad person?? I have a ton of other crap to write about this white trash family but was tired of moaning for the moment...ha!