Feeling then need to post...let's brag about our kids for a bit
Some of you might remember my story...some might not know anything about me. My story really doesn't matter anymore. I can claim to be one of the few that put up with same as most on this board with adult step kids, but only dealt with it for 2 years. And now I am happily living single in my own place for 4 months now. Out of DRAMA!
Aside from that one of the things I realized tonight is that while with ,my estranged DH I felt I couldn't be happy with what my own adult kids have accomplished. While with him it's not that I ignored my kids and what they have become, it's more that his kids took so much energy out of me, that I ended up so stressed!
So now that I have been away for a while and getting a grasp on life, one thing for SURE I know is this great wonderful guy (DH) came into my life then taken away over BS, it was for a reason. The biggest lesson I learned is to APPRECIATE YOUR KIDS!!!!! Mom you did a wonderful job!!!! And yes I am patting myself on the back!
So shout out to parents....please brag about YOUR kids!
I'm proud of you for letting
I'm proud of you for letting your kid become a man and cut the apron strings. Few divorced mothers can let their ex "win" and they'll hold their kids back despite the damage they may do to the kid.
Have I mentioned my son the
Have I mentioned my son the Doctor?
(Sticks nose in air).
My daughter is 6 and a half
My daughter is 6 and a half months, cute as a button and growing way too fast.
She'd slept in her own room since she was 2 months and slept through the night from then as well.
Today, she looked at me and called me mama, repeatedly. Made my day. To be fair she spent a good five minutes calling the wall mama too so I'm not going to feel too special.
DH has been smitten with her since the day she was born.
My kids are just awesome. I
My kids are just awesome. I swear that I fall in love with them over and over again every day. My son is so freaking smart it blows my mind. He is doing so well in Tae Kwon Do, he is about to test for his Blue belt. He wants to make black belt before he is 12! My daughter is only 6 but she is a mini me. She cracks me up, I come in the house after work and kick off my heels. She runs over and slips her feet in them, puts on an apron and helps me cook dinner every night! It is our gossip time. I hope we always have that
Good for your BS! Taekwondo
Good for your BS! Taekwondo is so great for kids. I haven't met a little martial artist yet who's disrespectful or in any kind of trouble. (I am also a blue belt, testing for purple this week. Fist bump to your BS!
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BS17 is just an awesome kid.
BS17 is just an awesome kid. I got lucky! He'll be graduating HS this June with honors. He's taking AP and Honors level courses and doing great in them. He earned his black belt in taekwondo three years ago, and is now an assistant instructor who helps teach the little kids. BS works PT, pays for his own car/gas/insurance, and has never gotten into any kind of trouble. He's never touched alcohol or drugs. He's respectful to others, thoughtful, and just all-around a great kid. I couldn't be prouder!
And yes, he's a child of divorce. He went through Hell with his biodad and ex-SM. The difference between him and so many of the skids on here? I didn't feel sorry for him and coddle him. I had expectations. He had responsibilities. It makes a tremendous duifference!He's now a self-sufficient young adult ready to take on the challenges of the world.
All of your kids sound great! Good work, mamas (and dads)!
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I know this is an adult
I know this is an adult stepchildren forum, but please let me brag about my two little ones...
I have two boys (ages 9 and 4), and they're both bright - doing VERY well in school, handsome, funny, and (in my opinion) a joy to be around most of the time. They have very good manners that people compliment them (and me!) on all the time, and they clean up after themselves, usually without having to be asked.
I've raised them to behave this way, and I expect nothing less. I tell them every day how much I love them and how proud I am of them, and the young men they're becoming.
Having to be around three absentminded, flighty, sloppy skids just makes my boys' good qualities shine even more!
My parenting philosophy has always been that I'm raising adults, not kids. I don't want to send wild animals out into the world for everyone else to have to deal with, so I've worked very hard to instill values, a good work ethic, and manners in my children. It's just a shame that not every parent sees these things as necessary.
DH thinks I'm too strict on them sometimes, but I actually take that as a compliment. The reason my children are so well-behaved and respectful of others (especially adults) is because that's what I expect out of them. I wish DH would do the same with his kids, but unfortunately, he doesn't. You can't get even so much as a "please" or a "thank you" out of those feral creatures.
I agree 100%. I think kids
I agree 100%. I think kids should be allowed to "be kids" but they have to learn respect and responsibility!! I don't want them to have to come back home in their 20"s because the real world is hard!
I'm afraid that's what's
I'm afraid that's what's going to happen with my skids. They are in no way, shape, or form, being raised to take on the real world. The oldest is almost ten and still believes in Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy, for pete's sake.
DH and BM seem to think that if they shield the kids from all the "bad stuff out there," that they'll have a happier childhood. Or something. I really don't know what they're thinking. Asking the skids to do any actual work around the house is unthinkable. "Let them be kids!" Oh good grief, DH. They have plenty of time in their day to be kids. They also need to learn how to get off their ass, turn off the Xbox, and do something productive every once in a while. (Gasp!)
I wrote about my bios too. I
I wrote about my bios too. I don't have anything good to say about ss
I'd say something good about
I'd say something good about my skids if I could. Honestly, I would.
The only good thing about them is that they're at BM's house every other week.
SS7 still can't tie his
SS7 still can't tie his shoes. He's book-smart, but when it comes to real life, I hate to say it, but he's a complete dumbass thanks to his overprotective parents. I spend so much of my time watching these stunted children and just shake my head at what sort of adults they're going to turn out to be.