hate my stepson
Forums:
my stepson is 25 . he has 1 son and a daughter.
he doesnt see his son as he simply doesnt give a damn, eventho he says he does.
now he has a 4 day old daughter with an other girl.
he lives with this girl.
we were woken up by the doorbell at 4 this morning by him and some other girl. both drunk.
I am furious at his behaviour , but my wife (his mum#) gives him the impresion its ok .
He says , this is My house and I can do what i want.
I am only married 1 year to his mum, and his mum said to me. yes , he can do what he wants, its his house.
I personaly think there are no morals here.
am i right to think that?
all he seems to think about is drink and getting it out his trousers.
imho he is not fit to be called a dad.
I'd say you've received your
I'd say you've received your marching orders and I personally advise you to obey them.
It would be a problem if your wife said its her home and she can etc. etc. It's quite another for her to put another male adult in charge especially one who feels entitled. Is he going to start using your possessions next? Your car? Your snacks? Sell the TV? After all it is his home and he can do what he wants.
Naturally you've found this intolerable. I think you have. Your main complaint seems to be his sleeping around and drinking none of which you are going to change nor should you even try - at least not anymore than the average fellow down at the pub.
He's not your kid, he's an adult, let mum deal with him to whatever degree she wishes. Which should be easy if you follow my advise. If you have indeed found his elevation to head of the household intolerable then you have no choice but to leave. Tell her that you made a mistake, take the blame so there is no argument, and pack it up.
So, is this your wife's home?
So, is this your wife's home? Did ss grow up in this house and you moved in?
If so, I would sit your wife down and calmly tell her that you don't want to live in ss's house any longer. I bet she denies that it is his home at this point. Explain that you are leaving and you would love to have her come along and make a home for the two of you or she can stay here and continue to provide a home for her adult son.
Let her make the choice but I would not continue to stay there for longer than it takes to find a new place to live.
Dr. Phil has said many times
Dr. Phil has said many times "you teach people how to treat you." That is so true. This kid (I realize he is 25) behaves this way, and continues to behave this way, because he is allowed to. There are no repercussions for his behavior. He gets drunk, shows up at your place, and he has a place to spend the night. He does it because you let him -- and your wife let him.
He continues to drink and have sex with other women because again, no repercussions. Why wouldn't he keep on doing it then. He has no sense of responsibility at all. Piece of work!