it's been almost a year since i've been on this website & things have been really good until this week. i haven't had to live w/SD this entire year, had my baby, my oldest daughter moved out, yea for her! Now there's drama w/my hub's family &he told them they cud move in w/us w/out even talking to me about it first. I can't stand MIL or SD,MIL is the reason SD is such a DUMB, spoiled brat.Hubby had been talking about them moving in more and more this past week
, meanwhile i was getting sicker & sicker to my stomach at the thought, till i could bare the physical illness no longer, i became depressed also at the thought. SD put me thru a lot of hell during my pregnancy.
i had added stress & the baby was born w/a heart defect. Me& hubby have come so far as a couple since she has not lived w/us. So, i finally told hubby last night that i DO NOT want to live w/anymore adult children, i'm finished, I can't and i especially don't want to live w/Autumn, SD.
I also told him that his mother is insane (prescription drug abuser)& i don't want to live w/that insanity.
Hubby & i are both in recovery, he's been clean for 7 years & i've been active in Alanon for 9 years & our programs teach us that we are not supposed to get overly involved w/the addicts in our lives, it's not good for our recovery. so i merely did what my program teaches me to do, say no when i mean no, instead of being a people-pleaser & saying yes to something I really don't want to do. I also explained to him that my relationship w/his daughter has been strained because of what SHE did, not me. She stole from me, lied to us,over-flowed the swimming pool & flooded the entire back yard, then blamed it on the pool man, who in turn was FIRED from his job, stole from my children, tried to drive a wedge between me & hubby,put me thru hell during my pregnancy & has never tried to make an amends to me by at least saying she was sorry, or taking any responsibility for her actions. I simply stated the facts, and in order to keep my side of the street clean, i wroter he letter, apoligizing about how things worked out between us. Till this day, she has never responded to me, however, i didn't expect it.
My husband was hurt, of course,and defensive at first & so I took the baby out in her stroller for a walk becuz i needed some time alone, as this conversation was very difficult for me to have for him. When i came back, he assured me that his mother & daughter would not be moving back in w/us, that they were adults & could work it out for themselves, his mother has her own money...he must have called his sponsor and I'm SURE his sponsor tore into his a$$ and told him what the RIGHT thing to do is. Thank God! Cuz i had been talking to my sponsor also a lot this past week and she kept telling me that i needed to have this conversation w/him, he needs to know WHO I am, I needed to do it for myself. And Hubby's STEP-MOM, who is a BLACK BELT ALANON, told me the same thing. I'm so glad that I got the courage to do it, otherwise I'd probably be living w/hell in my house right now!!!