I Just Sooo Hate it when I am right....
H has been somewhat off key since the SD called about wanting the patio furniture. It finally came out.
Seems the SD was bragging to him how she met Lard Butt's ELDERLY, ALONE neighbor and was going to help the "poor guy" out. That she is having Lard cut his lawn for him, and is going to check up on him etc., and will help him out if he needs help with his house etc. (Lordy, the spider is setting her web).
Hmmm, seems I have seen this play from her at least twice, 3 times if you include H, before from her. What is amazing to me is that she actually tells this to H. Look, isn't she a wonderful person. Keep in mind this is the woman who claims to hate her Mother and wouldn't even pitch in to bury her, BUT had no problem jumping on a plane to go down and see what she had that SD wanted. SD referred to it as "something to remember her by". BS, she just wants anything she can sell or has value.
Evidently H feels bad that she didn't offer any help to him, that he tried to ignore how he felt and didn't want to tell me because (sit down folks) I was right about her!
I can't wait to tell my counselor that I was dead on right about her. Pardon the pun.
Disengaging with her is one thing, but keeping an eye on her is imperative because of the way she thinks and manipulates. Devious people are always extremely charming, that is how they get you to let down your guard against them. Unfortunately this is H's daughter (sadly) and it must be difficult to accept what she is and what she does, wants. Today H realizes it, tomorrow etc. she will call and cry and he will start to cave again.
Oh, by the way, I didn't say
Oh, by the way, I didn't say much to H about this, just that it was sad she acts this way. IMHO she had a new victim, but also was rubbing it in to H that she was willing to help out someone else but not him because there was nothing in it for her.
Trust me, once she gains acces into his house, things will start disappearing. Happened to us/me. Opportunity has knock for her as she sees it.
Also made a note on this "behavior" of hers in case I need it....date, etc.
I'd be inclined to give her
I'd be inclined to give her local adult protective services an anonymous (or not, it's up to you) heads up. Do you know if he has any family that might be able to step in?
I don't know all the
I don't know all the particulars of this neighbor. But if SD is having her Lard Butt cut his grass and she is going to be checking in on him, it must be favorable for her. She does not do anything unless there is something in it for her.
Heck, she never asked or had Lard Butt to come and help us out when we needed help. In her opinion, we should pay for someone and not bother her as she was TOO BUSY. That is what she said to H when she wanted his new zero-turn lawn mower, that he was too old and should hire someone so H could give it to Lard Butt. That didn't fly with me needless to say.
Case in point, we had tornado hit her about 2 miles away on Friday night and there are trees down in the area. Very severe. Has H heard from SD? Nope. She knows about the area as she only lives some 7-9 miles away from us. If that was the situation with my parents, or even my friends, I would be checking to see all was well and if I could do sometlhing or they needed something.
My bet is she will call sometime in, oh 2-3 weeks and hope that we survived the storms. You see, there is nothing in it for her right now. Very strange the way she responds to things.
The "death grab"
You are describing my SD63. She not only stole here but, apparently, from her mom and stepdad, too. Why not? She deserves things, right?
After SD's mom died, her widower stayed in their house for a few years til he developed cancer. SD had always hated him so she did nothing for him. (My sweet oldest SS did, though). When stepdad died, I'm sure SD thought the coast was clear for easy pickings
However, her stepdad had told his brother about her. The brother alerted neighbors to call the police if they saw her car at the house. Oh, poor SD, came up empty.
For good measure, the brother also banned her from the funeral home.
I am considering the doing
I am considering the doing the same to SD when her Dad passes. I know I won't be able to stand the fake grief, the boo hoo hoos etc. while she is looking to see what she can grab when no one is looking.
Let her find out when the obituary is published. That will be a time for grieving and not for SD drama.