I'm DONE

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After dealing with my DH's inability to contain his BK's insolence toward me, because fear of losing their love--I have had enough. He has pilfered 35K from my business account to pay for out of state tuition (10k/semester) with a full ride, spending money and a sorority.

I have cut off the bank of me. Not wanting to strand the SD I offered to pay for one more semester-- instate only--no housing. Yes, this was my DH's fault to let this happen, but she owns this just as much--being 21 years old. She told "Daddy" it was unnecessary for me to make her out to be an "unappreciative naive child". (Oh Pleeeeeeaaaaase!)

The same went for his BS, 25yo. My DH, allowing him to be rude to me in our house, was my limit. I told my DH his son was not going to be rude to me again in my/our house. I would frog march him out the front door.
Now my DH feels as though I have muddied the waters, engages his BK as if there is nothing wrong, never breaching the issues. My DH wont admit he took advantage of me and my funds to save face with his BKs and now treats me with contempt.
Now I'm the bad guy?
All of you can go f*** yourselves. I'm done!

Don't blame you one bit.

How long have you been

How long have you been married to DH? Are you leaving him?

Never one THANK YOU from

Never one THANK YOU from them.

Good for you!!!!

And he should pay you

And he should pay you back for the money he pilfered from the business. wow. I am surprised you don't kick his ass to the curb.

I'm proud of you!!!!

He stole $35,000 and now

He stole $35,000 and now you're gifting his daughter another few grand? You're still buying love and it isn't going to work. What you'll get is contempt for being the fool.

I hope you're not just talking but telling all of them to leave otherwise you're just posturing.

No, the SD wouldn't accept my

No, the SD wouldn't accept my offer. She thought Daddy would cave but he couldn't. So the SD has encumbered her BM with the costs. I'm done. I was only trying to take the high road since I made a promise at the beginning.

The man behind the curtain, my DH, has been exposed--to me and his kids.

I'll recover from my mistake.

taking the high road gets you

taking the high road gets you nowhere. i have learned to stand up for yourself if your husband wont defend you. its a matter of self respect.

Nothing wrong with standing

Nothing wrong with standing up for myself with class and sophistication. I still get done what I need to get done--without lowering myself to their space. That's how I respect myself.

The money thing goes deeper

The money thing goes deeper than the 35K. I told him he had to sign his part of the equity in our house over to me--I put it sole and separate. Split the bank account and goods. He's out of the house and I'm going to get it ready to sell this summer. We were married four years. Now he has no house, no wife, living in a travel trailer at a local RV Park.

BUT? He has BK's that love him. Oh but wait--he doesn't have any more money to "LOVE" them with.

As Still_fearless wrote, he's

As Still_fearless wrote, he's a gold digger. It may take some time to get over this outrageous abuse but you will. In no time at all you will be back on track and thank your lucky stars you kicked his a$$ out. Just hope you can re-coop some of the money. You are strong and worthy of true love - especially the kind you give to yourself. You will find it but will know what to look out for. (((BIG HUGS)))

Good for you, just do not

Good for you, just do not give the daughter another dime. You are being used...

Don't worry. I doubt I'll

Don't worry. I doubt I'll ever see them again. AMEN!

I think I would probably pick

I think I would probably pick up a bat and smash a door if my DW did to me.
Yep don't give his raggedy ass daughter another dime. She can take out student loans like most people do.

I'm just amazed at your

I'm just amazed at your saintly restraint.

Thank you.

I did not raise my 2 now

I did not raise my 2 now adult stepchildren and after 32 years of trying to keep the peace, I have finally figured it out. I disengaged after their last visit and expected show of disrespect this past Thanksgiving and feel 100% liberated! My husband is trying to turn it around on me but it is not working this time! Now, his daughter need not play the poor daughter, (victim) blaming her wicked stepmonster. I've given 200% and all for nothing. It will NEVER change so I have now given up and moved on! I should have done this years ago!
I LOVE MY DOGS!!!!

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