:? I came home one day and my stepdaughter at age 17 at the time was setting on my porch. Now for the past 7 hrs she would have nothing to do with us, she treated her dad like a dog who raised her until he decided to make a life of his own. Her mother was remarried and had been for 6 yes before I came into the picture. Here is the problem...her dad had been going to college as he was injured and trying to get back on his feet but he kept his daughter and a " stepson" all the time. The neighbors thought he had custody if that tells you anything. Anyway he started dating me and that's when it began. The daughter had not been to my home for two years. So here she is wanting to move in. She moved in and it was graduation and prom time which we were not prepared for as my husband is still having to pay $600 per month child support until they go to court. We spent our pitiful little down savings we had for a new home getting her new clothes because her mother would not let her have her clothes, prom dress, graduation things pics etc. Amounted to about $8,000 when all said and done. So she of course expects only the best, she won't work, won't clean her room, won't help around the house etc. She has no friends, she only dates criminals or weirdos if anybody. She plays video games constantly, stays on the computer, text all these weird people she don't even know from this online game. She is 20 hrs old still the same thing. She did however because she has some money in the bank from a car wreck " loan" us the money for a down payment for a home because where we lived was horrible. She brings up from time to time how much we owe her. I dont feel we owe her anythiing but that is just me. We made an agreement with her to pay her back as she is an adult we pay her car insurance and her cell phone bill, everything else she needs which she feels we owe it to her. My other issue is she clings to me like I'm her girlfriend or something it drives me insane. Her dad works out of town and is only home once per month and I spend all my time in my room because I can't stand the fact that she wants to be in my face all the time. I want her to get a life, be a 20 yr old, also leave me alone! She wants to know where I'm going? Why am I leaving early? What am I wearing today! I can't stand it! She has to initiative at all, no desire to grow up! It is putting a strain on my marriage, financially and my health! I just want her nasty hind end to go! Also her room is a pigsty and smells like rotten vajj! One more thing I have a little dog and she tries to make the dog not like me and like her, what is up with that? Please advice!