Just about one year ago my husband and I who Ive been married to for over 20 years reached out to who he believes might be his daughter. (there is no proof and her mother never would let him prove paternity) She was sleeping around and had another child out of wedlock so she continued to play this game with him. To make a horribly long story short this woman has been a thorn in my side from day one of my marriage. She believes that since they were together (not married)that she was always first in his life in reality we had broken up and briefly he was with her long enough for her to torture him and supposedly produce this child. Anyway apparently over the years her and my mother in law were in conjunction all these years(he doesnt speak to his mother) and she had been telling her daughter that I was the one that wouldnt let him have anything to do with her and on and on details that never happened and were not true. Needless to say when we contacted her cause she was telling people that she wanted to meet her bio dad. She had a child and was in her 20's and we invited her to our home where we have small children and all that tried to help her and the long sordid story continues. Well she has only been in our lives for about one year and has always been needy, bitchy, whinny about everything from her screwed up life to her horrible psycho mom. Let me point out that yes I pushed my husband to try to have a relationship with her regardless that he couldnt stand her manipulative mother and never wanted to see this woman again in his life. I did everything from set up meetings, buy her and the baby stuff ( all kinds of stuff) cause she complained that her mom would absolutley not help her cause it was her mistake to deal with. She complained endlessly that her mom would not watch her kids even for a few short hours so she could have a break. Well not only did we take him for her not just for the weekend but for week at a time and like I said i still have small children at home and I homeschool and have no family close so I never get a break but i never said anything cause I was trying to be nice but that all changed recently when we found out she is pregnant again by some deadbeat that she complains about all the time wouldnt help her with the one she has so she goes and gets pregnant with another one. I dont need to emphasize how disappointed I was to hear than than when I asked her what is she going to do and some other questions I got the third degree cause I wasnt jumping for joy and showing my endless support. Hello she isnt supporting the one she has we were helping what we could and we dont have any to spare. I just know she is just like her mom three kids three different me, living on welfare and the like. Everyone is to blame but them. Hello if you dont want kids there is a dozen ways to prevent it was my only point. Anyway it has turned into world war three and of course Im the bitch Im the cause Im the whole package of hate dumped into my lap and Im pissed. I have never said a word to her dump ass mom for the shit she did to me but Im her dumping bed for all her problems with this daughter. She not only is crazy but she wont admit to what she did in the past but she is calling me names and making it like I made her life the way is turned out cause my husband didnt love her enough to put up with her for the rest of his life. The daughter called me incessanty when she needed something but blames me when I couldnt drop what i was doing cause we couldnt help her the last two times and take her kid for her when she wanted us too. She now says I love my dad and the kids(my kids with him) but she feels like i make her feel like she is an incovience. She doesnt give me any respect whether its in my home or out in public. She acts jealous that he has a life and family besides her like he needs to apoligize to her for the rest of her life cause her mom was to stupid and immature to make her kids a priority. She is jealous that our grown son who is a few months older than her has a career and a good life not that we did it for him but that we raised him right with good morals and a mostly good head on his shoulders. She says we only came along because she has a kid and we wanted grand kids. Hello that is farthest from the truth. I have kids I dont need grandkids they were just an added bonus. She just wanted a hand out without us or should I say me have a say in anything she does. I regret the day that I allowed this or pushed this to happen for her sake. I thought I was doing a good thing bringing them together but once again while her mom is involved Im living to regret it. I just want her to know if he or I am to blame for what her mother did why doesnt she ask herself why did she not know she had another dad until she was past the age of 9 when I know for a fact her mother was calling my husband when she was a small child and she never let him talk with her. Her mother would call and beg him to come meet her so she could have another baby with him while she was married to her husband that is the girls now adopted dad. She had the nerve to say if it hadnt been for her stepdad she could never forgive us for not being there for her. We were definitly not the reason for not being there. Her mother wouldnt allow it unless my husband was fucking her too. Sorry but that is exactly how it is. Any my son that my husband raised is from another brief marriage that I had and he raised him and her mom told her that he was both our son and that he had cheated on her with me. Even after I pointed this very wrong fact she still wants to believe all the crap her mom has made up about me. From the get go she had no intentions on having a peaceful life with us she was just using us for her own gain. Even after my husband told this daughter the truth to what is the facts we havent heard a word from her. So why does it bother me so much that this happened and I cant just let it go for good? I know alot of it is that once again I dont voice how I feel to anyone that starts crap like this so it seems as if I am a pushover but than for them to call me a bitch it pisses me off and I want to have it out which I wont but I hate feeling like I was used. I dont need this and now she has started to ruin the somewhat good relationship he has with another grown daughter that we have been trying to have a relationship with for a few years now. She and her mother by my mother in laws hands introduced them to each other years ago and the psycho mom contacted the other mom who really is not into all this fighting together. But now that the daughters are grown supposedly the good one said something off handed to the bad daughter about me. Once again something that was brought to my attention by the bad daughter that I explained never happened. I just wonder if she is starting crap with the other cause she is just like her mom. I know there is nothing i can do about the fact that she is just like her mom but did we make a mistake in thinking anything good could come of all this endless drama?