Hiding from BM
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OMG I just totally hid from BM and her partner. They came to pick the skids up from my partners parents house and I just couldn't face them. I couldn't face all the fake hugs and niceties, she is pregnant again with her new man and I get the impression she's rubbing it in my face. She has started coming over more since at every opportunity and like this time with literally 2 minutes notice. If she gave half an hour I could compose myself. This is the first time I've done it and I feel awful. Not a good impression to give anyone, kids, boyfriends parents or BM. Please tell me I'm not the only one who's ever done this, I feel like such a massive idiot and about 5 years old. Really uncool!!!
Coward!!! LOL just kidding
Coward!!! LOL just kidding of course. Yes I've failed to answer the door on a dozen occasions when I didn't want to see someone. If you made it unobtrusive it may not have been as noticeable as you think. Did you suddenly have to pee or did you crouch behind the couch?
Of course! That's not hiding,
Of course! That's not hiding, that's not greeting someone who isn't there to see you. I go months without seeing BM. It's wonderful, for both of us I'm sure! Pickup and dropoff of children are done by their parents. Period. Stop beating yourself up : )
Thank you all so much! You've
Thank you all so much! You've made me smile with your stories. X
I have lost count of the
I have lost count of the times I have hid or shunned BM. She is always getting invited to family events by my partners family and we make sure we are in a different room if possible. I just don't want to clap eyes on her, I've got a whole piece of my mind I could give her given the chance but it would only cause trouble so I have to avoid her. I sometimes have to work in the same place as her husband and I avoid him too. It's usually a sudden phone call or text coming in when I see him approaching that helps me having to acknowledge him if there is no other escape route.
You are not on your own