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Frustrated816's picture

Does anyone else deal with boundary issues? We went to my husband's friend's house this wknd for a few hours after a school event. Before we went I told my bd's 12, 7 and sd15 that they couldn't be around for adult conversations and would have to hang with the kids. My bd's both go with the other kids including 2 kids who sd babysits, ad sits around w/the adults for 2 hrs until I told dh that she needed to go help my bd with the younger kids. Of course as soon as she left the adults could actually talk. Sd had an attitude b/c she thinks she's an adult. I think there should be clear boundaries between adults and children dh doesn't understand why it annoys me so much. Doesn't help that ad is beyond immature and has daddy (yep still calls him "daddy") completely fooled. Am I wrong here?

Kes's picture

I wouldn't usually be taking up the part of the SDs, as I can't stand mine, but I feel in this case, it wasn't really fair to make SD15 do unpaid babysitting just so you could get her out of your hair. Couldn't she have gone home on the bus, or something?

Frustrated816's picture

This was in the evening and his friends live one street over. She chose to come with us even after being told that she couldn't hang with the adults. My own 12 year old also chose to come but did as she was told. All of the kids had the same option.