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EXH and his g/f (She Pregnant and DRINKING!!!)

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Submitted by Halgsmom on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 1:47pm

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Blended Family Issues

So, I have a pre-teen son with my ex. His new g/f is pregnant and generally I do not care what he does, I ACTUALLY get along with him and the g/f. But this REALLY really bothers me. I cannot seem to let this one go and although I have not said anything to either of them (don't think I should stick my nose in) I do not think its right. I did mention something to my ex the other night on the phone: he said she was drunk and I said, "Didn't you just tell me she was pregnant?" And he said "Yes, she is." And I said, "You are ok with that?" He said, "It is what it is." Um..... ok. :jawdrop: I know it is none of my business, it is not my baby and I have my own kids to worry about but even if it were ANY ONE ELSE, I would still have an issue with it. Just wrong.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 1:52pm

It is wrong, and sick and selfish and a ton of other things.. but not your problem. I used to get so worked up about things like this, but then realized that people will do what they will do whether I or someone else get worked up about it or not. Can't save the world... you can only do your best for you and YOUR family.

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Submitted by Halgsmom on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 1:56pm

I know. You are completely correct. My ex was abusive to me and I KNOW DARN well that IF I had done this he would have beat my arse into the ground (and in this case, I would have deserved it) It makes me sad to think that IF the baby makes it that my son will have a sibling to care for after his Dad is dead because his Dad/gf were too stupid to know better. Sad

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Submitted by Halgsmom on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 1:58pm

I didn't ask to begin with. He gives wayyyy too many details sometimes. I know it's not my business. I am a SM too and I would be LIVID if the BM got into my face about my babies (which she has) so I have no intention of saying anything to either of them. For the record though, it would bug me if it was ANYONE, it really has nothing to do with the fact that he is my ex.

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Submitted by Halgsmom on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 2:07pm

O! That is a wonderful idea. I think I will next time. Thanks!!! Why is it that I have set up boundaries with DHs ex and still learning with mine?? (He was not around much for the last 12 years, until recently, maybe thats why ?)

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 02/28/2011 - 2:09pm

Gals, I think you're being kind of rough on OP here... she can't control the crap that her ex spews out of his mouth... trust me, BM is JUST like this in our case! DH has told her a bazillion times that he doesn't want to hear that she is fighting with her BF, having car problems, or in need of some working brain cells, but she NEVER gets it....it is just her, she is one of those people that just talks to hear herself talk.

MIL is the same way, she'll call me to ask a simple question and 40 minutes and 300 topics later I find myself asking "Why the hell did she call me??"