Facebook status and kids
Just wondering what you all would do in a situation like this
My sd 17 has not been going to school in the afternoons for about a month now. When I tell her to leave the house and go she ignores me and goes to her room. Her dad has told her several times to go to school and she told him to foff and mind his own business. So last night I had finally had it and told him he needed to do something about this So he sugarcoated it and talked to her with no punishment and now she is really really angry at me for saying something to her father. Long story short I go on to face book this morning and find her status as this
"Not thin enough. Not smart enough. Not pretty enough. Not tall enough. Not enough, even though I try. Well drop your judgements and your expectations."
and I know it is directed at me
Should i bring this up with dh or leave it alone. I am starting to think she may need theropy or some thing.
I would say you're thinking
I would say you're thinking right. I wouldn't think the status is directed at you though, but not going to school and saying something like that, the kid has issues.
You might mention it to your husband and suggest she start some therapy. I would go into the conversation with the name of a recommended therapist for such issues and how soon they would be able to see her.
I disagree on the ego issues
I disagree on the ego issues - my nieces and nephews are just as neurotic and self-conscious as I remember being.
I would make opportunities for her to talk to you, plus I would talk to DH regarding that post - because there is a lot of pressure to be a great many things when you are that age, and early help can sometimes prevent bigger problems such as eating disorders evolving.
Could she be talking about
Could she be talking about someone at school or a boy or something? Maybe she is getting picked on at school and thats why she isn't going and maybe that comment was directed at that person?
Sometimes Ill post something on facebook that is generalized and everyone thingks its about them, lol.
Are you guys "friends" on facebook? Talk to her about it. I think therapy could do her some good whether the comment was directed at you or not.
I am SURE this is about
I am SURE this is about something going on at school. Talk to some parents of her friends. Maybe their kids have told them something. It's better to be nosy and have a child that is alive and well and mad at you, rather than mind your own business and go to a funeral.
I thought the same thing as
I thought the same thing as Pantera, and that is, are you guys friends on fb?
I dont get into fb much, and def dont like kids being on there...but I suppose I'm inclined to say "dont bite."
If she's trying to bait you or just vent or get her "friends" to validate her or whatever, it may or may not be directed at you or because of you...I'd prob just not acknowledge it at all. That way, if she's trying to get your goat, it will bug her that it didnt. And if it really had nothing to do with you, then she wont even notice or care that you did nothing.
thanks everyone insite into
thanks everyone
insite into it
yes her and I are friends on face book and the status showed up about 10mins after she got in trouble for not being at school she made a fuss and told her dad to shut up and that he was stressing her out "as she is the only teen in the world who has to go to school"
and then this morning she was very rude and told me she didnt like me and hat I was a bitch for telling her dad. As far as I know she does well at school has alot of friends and being a teenage girl fights alot with her friends but is very quick to make up with them.