My Hubby and I have been married for 2 years together almost 4. Only a few months after we got married our life changed. I myself had two children from a previous relationship that he has since adopted. One of my children has Autism he is amazing. Not long after we got married we gained custody of his two children due to their mothers mental state. She is limited to her time with them and they lived in a diffent state almost up unitl we gained custody. The kids are doing great they blend so well no problems really there. The issue is I reached out to her parents we shall call them the outlaws. Now her father and step mother love us and they are nothing but supportive. It's the outlaws her mother and step father that have given us a run for our money. I have full beleif that they need to spend time with the children but we have been having so much difficulty. They are asstranged for over a year now with their own daughter. They are not bad people by any means just difficult. They have a set way of life and mind set that is not the same as ours. So tensions have been high. I just dont know what more i can take when i am already trying so hard to keep their bond with bio mom and them and they are constanly questioning my parenting , the way i dress them , that i dont buy them everything under the sun. That i dont have time for them that i dont give them enough visits. It has come to a point the stress so high that i have asked my hubby to assign a day a month and leave it at that cuz i can't seem to ever get them to just be happy. I know its not my job to care but my kids all 4 of them need to be provided fair equal love from everyone and not be restricted due to unforseen circumstance. I did not need to include her parents but it is not the childrens fault their mother is ill. I dunno what to do or what is fair