I'm engaged to a man. We've been together 2 years.

He was with a woman for 11 years before me, married for 5 of them. He had separated before meeting me. We're together, have no children, plan on getting married. His divorce has been finalized a year.

She is older than him. Had been married before, had 3 children. When they met, there was girl A girl B (4) and boy J (6mo) he was with them for 11 years. Her first ex husband committed suicide. A few years in they got pregnant, boy A (may 2005). They got married, divorced later.

Now, girl A (18) is not around. Girl B(16) not around. Boy J (12 years old) considers my fiance his father and comes around. He is an absolute angel. But then there's the biological child (boy A) who is a NIGHTMARE.

Boy A tells Boy J that he's more important because he actually has a dad, and that his dad is not Boy J's Dad. Boy A is 8, and honestly believes he's better than everyone. My Fiance perpetuates these ideas, despite the fact that he says Boy J is just as important.

Boy A put my laptop under the truck, so it was run over and destroyed. Boy A puts wedding photos all over our home. Boy A spits on me, starts shit, calls me names, and then cries and denies it to my fiance, thus causing huge problems. Boy A has just failed 2nd grade, and says it's my fault because I ruined his family.

My Fiance has started to get cross with me because Boy A says he isn't comfortable with me.

I just don't know what to do. Trying to be nice hasn't gotten me anywher.e