I am new to the site but have lurked for a long time. I am 33 and DH is 38. DH has two kids, SS6 and SD5, from a previous marriage. We have one together on the way, a boy, who is due in Dec.

We got married in June and due to unforeseen circumstances with BM of SKs they ended up living with us for an indefinite period of time (first it was December, now it's next June). I really only thought we'd have them for the summer and of course I didn't get a say in them coming to live with us that long.

SS and SD are nightmares. They don't listen, SD has daddy wrapped around her finger, SS has anger/frustration issues which he takes out on my dog and his sister. Ever since they moved in, DH and my relationship has suffered to the point that I feel like an outsider and that he no longer cares about me or the baby. I have felt, since they moved in, that it's him and them vs. me and the baby. Last weekend was the final straw when I was admitted to the hospital on Saturday for a stay until Monday afternoon and DH didn't come see me once, nor offered to bring me anything. His excuse was that he had to take care of my dog (which he very well knew he could take to my mother's). Things were tense when I got back and when he approached me about trying to have "more positive interactions with his kids" I about lost it. I couldn't take it anymore. I brought up the hospital stay and everything I've been feeling (which I've brought up before). He is very unempathetic and when he showed no feelings, I packed my shit up and moved in with my mom temporarily. I said the only way I would come back is if we ALL went to family counseling to help us all adjust better. He refused, saying he didn't have the time. Of course, this coming from the person who gets to spend an hour at the gym every day.

So I said, then I'm staying where I am and not coming home. His response, ok.

I'm at the end of my rope.