So as some of you may recall my SS14 had his phone taken away indefinitely back in the end of May. It's still not been returned to him (don't know if it ever will....but that's another story) so the only way to contact SS14 is through DH or myself.

Now I have long felt and believed with much opposition and defending by DH towards MIL that she is MUCH too involved in our lives, and with SS14. I understand kids are close to grandparents (I was and my bios are to my parents), and that MIL was the one who helped DH out for years with SSs at night while he worked. MIL does NOT appreciate that DH has a wife who takes care of him and the boys and her control over their lives is gone, which has caused issues with her feelings towards me. Well, MIL will call that boy (just SS14...not SS12...he doesn't count for some reason), numerous times a day. I mean NUMEROUS...like sometimes even before school, always within 10-20 mins of school being let out, at least once if not twice in the evening including right around 9:00 pm when she knows is bedtime. If SS14 doesn't answer, she will continue to call and call and call until he does. And if he still doesn't she will call DH and ask why SS isn't answering his phone (IDK lady...because he is 14 and doing things 14 yr old boys do...homework, hanging with friends, watching TV, practicing sports...maybe??) Now that it's summer vaca I have counted as many as 12-15 calls back and forth between MIL and SS12's phone (she's calling SS12 now in order to contact SS14, although I have put a stop to that...if SS14 is wanting to get calls, they need to go to his father's phone...SS14 lost his phone privileges, that doesn't mean he can now use his brother's phone as his own) which, I'm sorry...is excessive. She calls to see how SS14 is doing...what he's doing...is he in trouble?...is DH or evil SM being mean to you?...why haven't they let you do ______ or have _______ yet?...etc etc. And she confides her adult struggles to SS14...he is her GRANDCHILD....NOT HER FRIEND...and certainly not her son.

So since SS14 got back to our home on Sunday...MIL has called about 12 times (as of last night- Tues) to speak to SS. She called DH three times in a row yesterday afternoon during his golf league match...he ignored the first two and then decided on the third he should answer in case there was an emergency since she kept continuing to call. No emergency...she wanted to know what SS14 would like to eat when he came to visit her on SATURDAY...DH was irritated. DH comes home after golf...we are having dinner, phone goes off AGAIN. AGAIN it is MIL, she wants to talk to SS to ask about Saturday. DH tells her he is outside playing, I hear him say, "okay! I will go get him! Yes, he's outside, I'm on my way out to get him!". DH comes in and says to me, "My mother is driving me crazy (he used some colorful words in there though) with this calling!!". I had a hard time keeping the smile from creeping across my face, and simply said, "well maybe it's time you discuss with her the volume of phone calls to your 14 yr old son and that it isn't necessary and needs to decrease." and then I turned to finish loading the dishwasher, where I could grin and he wouldn't see me.

It may take a little more time yet, but I have a feeling he may just finally get the idea that there is something wrong with Grandma calling 12 times a day. If not, I'll continue to enjoy the fact that it irritates and inconveniences him because he won't stand up to his "mama".