My daughter and my bf son always bicker
Hi,
I'm new to this but I feel like I'm hitting my head at a brick wall so need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and I have a 10 year old daughter and he has a 11 year old son. We only see his son every other weekend due to living away from us. We have recently got back from holiday and although nice it was exhausting due to our children bickering. My daughter will say something, his son will go that's not right. She will disagree and it is like that constantly. We thought that it may b because we had them for 2 weeks solid so maybe better when we got home but we had him this weekend and again they bicker. From my daughter I will get the attitude and then sitting in a huff and then from his son we get the rolling of the eyes and sitting in a huff. My bf even had to talk to him today as liking if he actually liked me or if we had a problem as we r together and we're have to get used to it.
We spoke to my bf mum today who said that she thinks he is trying to split me and his dad up as wants him all to his self.
Please someone help as to what more can we do
Both kids are acting out, yet
Both kids are acting out, yet everyone is focusing on just his son. :?
We have spoken to my daughter
We have spoken to my daughter and she has already said she loves him like a brother but gets upset with how he is with her
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Yup. This happens in every
Yup. This happens in every family. It tends to stop in the late teens. I like to think it's a socialization thing where the kid learns to handle aggression/competition. That's when I'm being philosophical. The rest of the time I want to slit my throat. If, like me, you are the kind of person that hates hearing this you can either tune into another sound like music/radio/etc, make them stay away from adults, or micromanage every incident with consequences, advice, etc. Whatever suits your parenting style. But even if micromanaged, this behavior will not go away until they mature. The encouraging thing is that in families where it happens, even if it is bad at the time, the kids can often be the best of friends in adulthood.
I do thank you all for ur
I do thank you all for ur responses and help. I have sat my daughter down last night and spoke to her and asked her if she had any problems in which she said she loved my bf and his son and wants everything to be ok. I have stayed that I don't want any silly rows anymore so we will see what happens next time. It did get to the point when me and my partner did start to bicker and then I saw his son smiling and loving the fact we was bickering cos of it so I want to put a stop to that. I am 30 and want a nice happy relationship and family.
When my kid starts bickering
When my kid starts bickering with his cousins and vice versa I just tell them who is right and to shut up and quit arguing. Politely of course.
The beauty of this is that now when they are together and start arguing they all dive for their smart phones to figure out who is right. It is funny to watch. They don't even give me time to give them the answer or to make up a smart assed "fact". Not as much fun for me as it was when they all look at me with big interested eyes while I made complete bullshit up to end the argument.
Haha that might be something
Haha that might be something to invest in, well we haven't got them both for a couple of weeks so gotta see how it goes. I always feel so anxious bout it x
I'm just LMAO about this
I'm just LMAO about this because I have boy/girl 19 months apart who bicker allllllll the time. It's totally normal, especially when they are close in age.