I may not have won the war to have my husband actually PARENT this kid of his, but I did win a battle today, and I believe that my DH is realizing jsut how much the BM has really dictated our lives. In previous posts I have complained that EVERY SINGLE other weekend she changes plans of pickup/drop off just to meet and accomadate HER needs. well with a toddler at home and a baby on the way, this has just put me off and has made me upset, caused a battle to say the least twice a month in my home. Its horrible! well we are moving this week/weekend and also getting a new dog this friday. my hubby and i had already discussed how we wouldnt get him this weekend b/c of the gas/$ issue and the fact that he would just be in the way of moving, and we dont know how this dog will evne react to a new home, jst too much going on. SO, of course, HER MAJESTY called today and says that she is coming for her brothers wedding and wants to drop kid off "wherver we are on saturday" SO praise the Lord for THIS in itself my hubby says "ill talk to my wife and get back to you" *(it took a LONG time to get him to understand NOT to make plans without talking to me so that makes me happy) anyways, of course i immediately get angry becuase not ONLY does she want to drop him off with us saturday but then for us to keep him the WHOLE ENTIRE WEEK! is she insane?! lol I was irate b/c my DH was all over this oppurtunity to see his son, quickly forgetting all the factors we talked about in not even getting him for the weekend. oh and furthermore, because of the molestation his son did to my daughter, he is NOT allowed at our house when she is there. period. she lives there, he doesnt. SO, of course we get in a heated fight, first thing and im super upset. "why doesnt my hubby EVER think of the family he lives with first? why is it ALWAYS about that kid that may or may not even be his?"
he leaves to clean his truck and comes back and apologizes! i was shocked to say the least! its is a neverending fight with him over this kid, no matter how much we discuss things first, its ALWAYS turns into a fight NO MATTER WHAT if she decides he can come see him. he came home and said he called her and told her "no he cant come this weekend and for the week, we are moving, getting a new dog and my wife is pregnant and not feeling well so she doesnt wanna watch him while i work all week" i believe he left out the part about my BD being home, as the BM doesnt believe his sexual behavior was a problem. ANYWAYS, I was happy. Not that he didnt get to come, because honestly it does my hubby good and i WOULD enjoy to get this summer week visit over and done, but im excited that hubby FINALLY stuck to what we discussed and didnt bend to BM like he always does! maybe he really did learn smth from all the articles i printed out about "guilty daddy syndrome" bc i told him if thigs didnt change the next was for me to disengage. so lets hope