I can't imagine how the 40% (or so) of 2nd marriages with skids survive after reading the horror stories here !!!!
It seems more like 90% should fail !!!!!
2nd marriage failure is actually at 60%. If either party has 2 or more divorces under thier belt, it's 90%. That's according to the 2011 national actuary tables for insurance companies.
I am working hard to save my marriage as well. I dont want to become in the 90% either. It gets hard but please keep me and my DH in your prayers. My SD is 20 and he caters to her and he puts me second. I know they are use to a certain way around their home but now it is OUR home and my 13 yr old dont act like her. I told him on several occasions he have our roles mixed up but he seems to think he doesnt but the proof is in the pudding. Not sure of what else I can do. When I try and talk to him he gets angry and says I am always complaining about SD. I just dont know.
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Being married is hard enough and then you add in hateful, greedy, entitled ex's and skids and it's damn near impossible.
The only thing that has kept me hanging on all these years is that my Husband was the man of my dreams. But his lack of a spine to his kids and ex is making me lose my respect and passion for him.
Most days I'm determined not to let the Step-shits win. But I don't know how to survive 3 more years.
I've started going to counseling to so I can deal with my anger over the situation and we can set boundaries. My DH insisted on coming too, so maybe things will look up.
I agree with the others that it’s mainly the fault of the bio parent when these marriages fail. I mean sure, it’s hard to deal with someone else’s kid and to have a constant reminder of your DH’s past walking around in your home. However, these guilty dad DH’s are something else. My DH wasn’t married to his BM and this is my first marriage (no kids), so I am not sure how that would change the statistic for us (since it’s not technically a remarriage- it’s a first marriage for both of us but he has a kid by someone else). Being a stepparent is just so damn hard. Is it even worth it? Idk. I think it would just be easier to find someone without all that baggage.
I blame the ex-whatevers, actually. IF it could be learned in our history to keep your past baggage and garbage out of a new marriage. Just a little bit?
My first and only marriage did not end because of skid or bm. Not all stepfamilies break up for ANY reason related to the first marriage or skids. Sometimes the H just turns out to be lying asshat.
2nd marriage failure is
2nd marriage failure is actually at 60%. If either party has 2 or more divorces under thier belt, it's 90%. That's according to the 2011 national actuary tables for insurance companies.
Wow, then I have a 90% chance
Wow, then I have a 90% chance my marriage will fail. Hmmmmm. Guess I just have to work that much harder to not become a statistic and be in the 10%!!!
I'm so glad my DH and I put our marriage first. Kids and Skids will be taken care of but the world doesn't revolve around them.
This is exactly how we feel,,
This is exactly how we feel,, glad to see another 90%er too.....
I am working hard to save my
I am working hard to save my marriage as well. I dont want to become in the 90% either. It gets hard but please keep me and my DH in your prayers. My SD is 20 and he caters to her and he puts me second. I know they are use to a certain way around their home but now it is OUR home and my 13 yr old dont act like her. I told him on several occasions he have our roles mixed up but he seems to think he doesnt but the proof is in the pudding. Not sure of what else I can do. When I try and talk to him he gets angry and says I am always complaining about SD. I just dont know.
A
Being married is hard enough
Being married is hard enough and then you add in hateful, greedy, entitled ex's and skids and it's damn near impossible.
The only thing that has kept me hanging on all these years is that my Husband was the man of my dreams. But his lack of a spine to his kids and ex is making me lose my respect and passion for him.
Most days I'm determined not to let the Step-shits win. But I don't know how to survive 3 more years.
I've started going to counseling to so I can deal with my anger over the situation and we can set boundaries. My DH insisted on coming too, so maybe things will look up.
But his lack of a spine to
But his lack of a spine to his kids and ex is making me lose my respect and passion for him.
Yep.
3. Step-parenting Blows Ass
Yep.
Step-shits-LOL!
Step-shits-LOL!
Thanks for the laugh.
Thanks for the laugh. Step-Shits. lol I needed that.
Me too ~ that's hilarious!!
Me too ~ that's hilarious!!
I agree with the others that
I agree with the others that it’s mainly the fault of the bio parent when these marriages fail. I mean sure, it’s hard to deal with someone else’s kid and to have a constant reminder of your DH’s past walking around in your home. However, these guilty dad DH’s are something else. My DH wasn’t married to his BM and this is my first marriage (no kids), so I am not sure how that would change the statistic for us (since it’s not technically a remarriage- it’s a first marriage for both of us but he has a kid by someone else). Being a stepparent is just so damn hard. Is it even worth it? Idk. I think it would just be easier to find someone without all that baggage.
I blame the ex-whatevers,
I blame the ex-whatevers, actually. IF it could be learned in our history to keep your past baggage and garbage out of a new marriage. Just a little bit?
My first and only marriage
My first and only marriage did not end because of skid or bm. Not all stepfamilies break up for ANY reason related to the first marriage or skids. Sometimes the H just turns out to be lying asshat.
This is true.
This is true.