My SD is the same age but doesn't hang all over daddy when she's here because she's too busy spending 24 hours a day with her face glued to her computer. She has no interests other than that. And if we try to go somewhere, she throws massive fits because she's so addicted to her computer. It's insane. BUT, if we do get her out of the house (threatening to leave her home and take computer with us), she then acts like my SO's girlfriend in public. She interlaces her hands with him and proudly strolls along, smiling back at me like "He's all mine!" She hangs on him and talks really quietly so only he can hear.

I explained how annoying this clingy crap in public is. And it is not quite right for one of the kids to get 100% attention. She's too old to be clinging to her daddy. He's now aware of it and tries to get her off him when she starts clinging and makes sure to hold my hand. I didn't want to say anything because it seems like a jealous thing. But sorry, you are walking down a street holding hands with a 12-year old with big boobs. That just doesn't look right.

Yes! the mini wife syndrome. Many of our SDs in this forum suffer from this syndrome.
Girl follows DH everywhere from room to room, sits on DH´s lap, do not interact with the rest of the family (Electra Complex)
DH has to set up boundaries, after an adult talk with you. She needs to know you are his wife and her role has to be clear.
You can find a lot of comments about the Mini Wife Syndrome here

Wow I am not the only one who goes through this huh? SD8 runs the show around here and she is clearly my DHs wife. I told him today that hopefully she can take care of his needs and cook because I'm DONE!

My SD is still young (5) but she also has major mini wife syndrome. She follows my DH around to the point he can't even go to the bathroom alone (he doesn't let her in the bathroom with him but she tries). If he stops walking, she will run into him- that is how close she follows him. I am not even exaggerating. She tries to sit in between us when we are on the couch together, she interrupts us when we're talking, it seems like she wants to be the wife and wants me out of the picture lol! I have told DH about it MANY times but it doesn't do much good. I don't want it to look like I am jealous of or competing with a 5 year old- I just want it to be clear who is the wife and who is the child- didn't thiink that was too much to ask. Ah I feel your pain!

Just be glad you only have to put up with it EOW!! I have to put up with it 7 days on/7 off all year round!! I have a SD11 just like that(for almost 6 years).
I just think it's sickening...my BD doesn't have to be up my a$$ 24/7 but then my BD12 has a strong sense of self, you know, feels secure and loved whether she's in the same room with me or across the street.
SD11 is just a whiny, clingy brat. "daaaaaadeeee" in baby talk voice. Come on, she's 11 but taller than me and weighs as much as 2 of my BD. Baby talking STILL!! She pissed her pants till she was 7!!
What's ESPECIALLY weird about my SD is that she baby talks like a 2 year old, YET she acts as if she is Dh's other half, like she is a decision maker and she is the one he wants to be around when he comes home from work, etc.

BTW, Dh HATES clinginess!! In fact the whole household is tense when she is here and everyone breaths a long, sigh of relief the minute she walks out the door.

Dh never wanted her and he still doesn't want her. Sad, but so not MY fault or my problem. It's just one of 30 or 40 annoying things about SD.

Being as stepmom sucks.

I had this problem with both of my SC. They are thirteen and there is many time when they are overtly affectionate with my husband. I think they feel like its a competition to be with their dad. It's not, their dad's and my relationship is full of intimate moments. Theirs should be built on guidance and being supportive. I totally understand how you feel. I guess it great to know others feel the same.

I had this problem with both of my SC. They are thirteen and there is many time when they are overtly affectionate with my husband. I think they feel like its a competition to be with their dad. It's not, their dad's and my relationship is full of intimate moments. Theirs should be built on guidance and being supportive. I totally understand how you feel. I guess it great to know others feel the same.

I think my youngest sd12 being told she can't lay on her dad while in a towel and shouldn't cling to him like she's a toddler was one of the things that helped her not want to come back here, in addition to the bull her mother fed her - but that was completely unacceptable. She would get out of the shower, walk right past her room, come in our room and lay on him in her towel. Ummmmm no. And she was all pissed off when she was told that's unacceptable and inappropriate and she is not to leave the bathroom without clothes on.

These kids are really sick sometimes.

my sd is 14 and she still does this type of thing. I walked in a few months ago when SO had let her watch a scary movie during the day and she suddenly got "scared" and had to sit in his lap. She was rubbing his chest hair and saying something about it being gray when I walked through the room. I just gave them both a really weird look. I wasn't sure what to say bc to me that was totally inappropriate behavior for sd. My SO really has no idea how to deal with kids and still treats her like she's 8!!

If i bring it up then he get's all upset and mad at me. I know I'm not crazy, that is not right!

My SD will be 12 next month and stuck to her father like crazy(sits on his lap,holds his arm when walking places,laying in his arms in bed).he says its her way of showing him love. :sick:
Its disgusting to watch,so i just dont go with him when he visits his kids anymore.Not to mention the lack of parenting skill on my DH part.He lets these kids do and say anything in fear of them not wanting to see him anymore and i've had enough of it

MY SD10, almost 11 is almost the same way with my husband. She was more clingy and would hang all over him more so in the last 5 years than now. It bothered me a lot then, so I would hang by myself in the bedroom while they would watch tv in the living room. She'd also get mad when her dad and I would show affection. We've been together for 9 years, and I remember when she was two years old she took my hand off her dads stomach and said "That's my daddy!" haha! Kind of funny back then, but she became more clingy as she got older.
I told her I cared about her, and I want to be more part of her life, so she wouldn't see me as a threat. Not sure if that helped, or she felt less jealous on her own but she hasn't been as clingy. She is more consumed with her ipod when she's at our house than laying with her daddy on the couch watching tv. Not sure what to tell you to make you feel better, but you're not alone!

This is starting to creep me out because all the cling-ons here are girls and my husband has a 14 year old boy child that can't stay off of him! It is all day, every day and I am at the point that I am thinking maybe I should just leave and let them live happily ever after! I don't get kisses and hugs, the kid does. I am not allowed to sit too close on the couch to husband without comments of "Geez, why is everyone always on me?!?!" but the rather large boy child is always in his lap wherever we go and at home. I know he is carrying guilt around about not always being there for his kids (there are three others that are older) but even the grandparents wonder why the child doesn't play with the cousins and is constantly wrapped around him like a bathrobe! Any ideas, thoughts, encouragement? I am not too much of a touchy-feely person, but I have to ask for hugs when I get them and then they are very quick and it may be weeks before I get another one! Help!!

He doesn't seem to be very feminine, but can a 14 yr old boy be a mini-wife? Also, the dad does everything for this child, including homework and brushing hair and teeth. And helping him dress, letting him do whatever he wants, not making him eat anything other than the meat and mashed potatoes out of a box and all the junk food he wants. Dad also lets him watch anything that comes on tv - whether age appropriate or not. Child is pretty much helpless and clueless and loves, loves, loves it that I stay in our room most nights just so I won't throw up watching the two of them. Probably wouldn't make me so crazy if I got any attention from my husband, but even when SS goes to his mother's house my husband is constantly on the phone with him and saying how much he misses him and how he can't wait to get him back. I've never been in a jail in my life, but this feels exactly how I imagine a jail sentence would feel!

I walked out of my rs with SO 2 month ago .His daughter was a mini wife.awful.