Ok so I have 2 step-daughters ages 8yrs and 10 yrs and a bio son age 5yrs..my relationship with my son is great as to be expected and my relationship with my 8yr old SD is wonderful too..however my relationship with my 10yr old SD is HELL total utter HELL..Ive been with both girls since their mom walked out 8 years ago and I know having a new motherly role isn't easy..Alicia (thats my 10yr old SD) hasnt had it easy as she saw her mom physically leave and not return then her Dad got full custody of both girls and their mom was ordered to pay child support..which she still does not pay..after awhile she would see the girls for an hour or two at a time then not see them for a few months at a time claiming numerous illnesses and blah blah excuse after excuse..shes a deadbeat plain and simple..anyway Alicia wants her mom back and I know that but seriously when is it gonna hit that the woman will NEVER wise up and be back?? The last few years with Alicia have been HELL! She has tried unsuccessfully to cause problems with her Dad and me but we stand strong! Alicia is 10 years old but acts like she is 4 or 5..does not get along well with peers as she is always commenting on something they do wrong and bullies the smaller ones..she even got slapped across the face once by a bigger girl because the bigger girl didnt like the fact that Alicia was kicking a kindergartner on the bus on the way home..she rightfully deserved that consequence becasue we have told her time and time again that other kids will not put up with her crap..then she went back to the girl the next day and tried saying that her own sister told me what had happened when Alicia was the one that had told me..just blamed her sister so easily and didn't even feel the least bit bad about it..now we are at a whole new school but same state just different area..at this new school she has gotten into trouble for causing issues with other kids and for stealing..(shes been stealing since she began pre-k though) when she is caught stealing she denies it repeatedly even when we or the teacher have physical proof shes guilty..she has damaged her relationship with her teacher so badly also because she claimed her teacher was saying not so nice things about her Dad and come to find out those were all lies..her teacher barely speaks to her anymore..recently Alicia has caused numerous kids to become upset because she will raise her hand in class and when called on she will start unloading all sorts of lies of things that supposably go on at home..she has told numerous kids that her Dad and I both beat her on a daily basis though she never has one mark..the truth of the matter is is that when she gets mad SHE is the one that comes after me..I have received bruises on my legs from her fits of rage and they can start from something as simple as me telling her to wait a minute on something until I have some free time..like shell ask for a book and I'll tell her to wait a minute then she'll stomp off to her room crying..I will then tell her she has to wait longer then she will start to kick the crap out of her walls and tear things up..to date since we moved here in November of 2010 she has 2 giant sized holes in her walls and 2 smaller ones..her door is now off its hinges from her kicking it so hard and she also busted the lower part of her window..she is TOTAL HELL to live with..I admit she and I have NO relationship whatsoever and kind of doubt we ever will..I do care for her but am so sooo sooooo sick of all her lies she tells and all the crap..even when she and I are genuinely getting along she still tells others at school that I'm this horrible person that does mean things..I just dont know what to do with her anymore or what to even think of her..currently I only talk to her when necessary and concentrate on her two younger siblings..she has also been in outpatient hospital care 2 or 3 times and we've had to admit her into inpatient hospital for 72 hours a total of 3 times for threatening to slash my throat while I sleep and becoming so uncontrolable and irate that she goes after my 5 yr old son which in my eyes is a BIIIIIIG BIIIIG NOOO NOOOOOO..I'm sorry but its my blood son over her ANY DAY! Since she has had 3 stays in inpatient she is now set for an inpatient treatment facility where she will be gone for at least 6 months to possibly longer..can't say Im not thrilled about this! Her fits and attitude and just pure hatred for everyone and everything has taken its toll on my marriage but I WILL NOT be running away any time soon all because she wants her real mom back..she has to come to terms with that one day and wake up and realize that the woman dosen't care..I know she will believe she does forever but maybe one day she will wise up..I really hope this facility she will be at will do some good for her though because if not then we will be looking into a more permanent home for her to stay until she is a legal adult..there is no reason my other two children should have to suffer being around this because it isn't healthy or safe..Alicia is one of those kids that tries so hard to get others to feel sorry for her and even tells other kids that she will hang herself in her room and tell me shes running away..sad to say but her bio mom is the VERY SAME WAY! This child looks acts and talks just like her bio mom it is soooooo friggin scary! I'm just damned if I do and damned if I don't anymore..so I figure my best bet is to just send her out to play and quit enforcing anything because its more of a battle than anything and I simply cannot take it anymore! Then when she turns 18 and she gets into the real world she will get one hell of a rude awakening! I give up anymore!