my sd is 11 years old and since i got with her dad 8 years ago its been nothing but hell..when she was 5 yrs old she went to her school with a mark and blamed it on her dad and the lovely school jumped to conclusions and figured oh it must be true then cps got called and she got her and her then 2 yr old sister pulled from our home..we didnt get them back for almost 2 yrs! while in foster care my sd said all kinds of bs lies including not only did her dad allegedly hit her but that he did touched her too! omfg i was blown away! i felt bad for her but was also pissed cuz the little brat was lying! her dad NEVER did anything to her and NEVER has! after awhile we figured maybe the foster parents were feeding her lies then we learned the truth from our caseworker that my sd was saying it all on her own! i was repulsed and just disgusted that a child so young could be so wrong! after awhile we did get them back because big surprise the state realized she was telling lies and the charge against my dh were dropped..yeah not even an im sorry from the state..FIGURES! anyway she came back with her sister and has been a major pain ever since! after they came back home she started saying the foster dad had done nasty things to her and then come to find out thats bs too..well now she is 11yrs old and even though the disgusting lies have stopped she still tells stories..her favorite kind are that we beat her, i set her clothing on fire, both of which are lies..she bullies other children mostly smaller ones constantly..she has had trouble at school with attitude with her teacher and refusing to do her work..yeah she got such a bad rep at school the teacher actually told my dh that he didnt have to send her the last day if he didnt want to..cant blame the poor woman one bit though my sd gave her hell! she was also stalking a boy her age that lives a street over and even started crap with his little gf because she was jealous they were together..my dh had to meet this boys parents and they said my sd would be standing in front of their house just staring blankly..i think shes sick in the head! and shes only 11! well anyway this past thursday she was admitted to a inpatient facility for the next six months to get her issues figured out..its more of a place where she can get the help with accepting authority figures, accepting being told no, respect for peers and everyone else, coping skills..basically its supposed to help her act "normal" she has already been in out patient three times and she had soooo much fun literally loved all the coloring she got to do and the little treats..the little pos is a master manipulator as well..after the outpatient care she showed no signs of improvement so we were setting her up to go to a living facility then boom she suddenly started behaving better so we held off on it..turns out it was just an act to get out of going..well this year is a whole new ball game..this year alone she has busted out her bedroom window, kicked several large holes in her bedroom wall, attacked me, hit her own dad, hit her own sister, hit her brother and nearly got herself and her sister hit by cars cuz it was her dumb idea to play a game of ducking and dodging moving vehicles..her sis just goes along cuz she looks up to her..now we have had her placed and i do not miss her one little bit..neither do my son or my younger sd..they seem happier and the house is calm without her..i dont want her to ever come back though i know she must the day she left she was soooo excited once again..cant say this place will do any good but who knows..i think shes too far gone for anyone to save..she has the selfish personality as her mother and i do not see her changing for anyone..i can see alot of jail in her future and alot of fights..she has a mouth on her..she acts like a big badass and shes 11yrs old and like 60lbs of scrawny..she messes with the wrong person i gurantee she will end up getting hurt..ya know what i say to that? GOOD! she needs a good butt kicking from another person her age maybe that will ship her into shape! ugh just hate her so much and i know its wrong to say but i wish my dh NEVER would have had her! she is a monster and i swear there has to be a 666 on her somewhere! other than her bratty behavior she also manipulates family too..my dh own mother babies the crap out of her and makes life difficult..my sd goes to granddma and grandpas and when she dont get her way she whines and cries and throws kicking screaming tantrums..once she spent the night there she wanted more food and was told to wait..she then started hitting her own leg so grandma got up and made her something..i was outraged! i would have made the little brat wait till breakfast! my sd just disgusts me in every way and i fear i will never get over it! she bothers me to the point that i want NOTHING to do with her! she "tries" with me but i know its bs..i know its all part of her manipulation and now i am numb to her..she is in this treatment facility now having all sorts of fun for now anyway and we can go to family therapy sessions but i really dont want to..im DONE with her and have been for the last year or so..i have tried and im exhausted with it anymore and i have two other wonderful children to care for that actually stand a chance in life..i dont see my sd making it to old age cuz shes too hateful and mouthy..shell be just like her bio mom and either have a kid early or be a druggie, prostitute, or worse dead one day..surprisingly her bio mom is still around but has not seen either kid since sep 2009 and shows zero interest iwth them..this does not bother my younger sd and my older one claims it dont bother her but i know it does..she wants her deadbeat mommy and her daddy to get back together..guess what theyve been divorced since 2003 and its time the little runt gets over it! some kids out there have had much worse lives than her and do they lash out at society or take it out on family? NOOOOO! she needs to grow up and stop being such a whiny pathetic excuse for a pre-teen! hard to believe she is almost a teenager but acts worse than her youngest sibling..ugh! hoping for the best even though i know she will never change...i wonder if any of you have similar issue with how im feeling..i feel horrible for everything i just wrote but am so grateful i can vent here..i can vent to my sister and even my dh but thats pretty much it..i am so blessed to at least have them though