Ok so I have 3 step kids who share a BM and 2 children of my own. I am also expecting..this is the only child in common my husband and I have. My Step kids BM is awful....my youngest SS is 4 1/2 and still peeing and pooping himself on a daily basis...the kid knows how to go to the bathroom he's freaking lazy...he will literally piss himself because he wanted to watch tv and such. No one seems to punish the kid and I want to know since when is it ok for a kid to be almost 5 and do this...I am talking 4 and 5 times a day....there is no way I will buy him diapers and support this bs....also all 3 of the kids constantly lie about things that it makes no sense to lie about..there mom "avoids conflict at all costs".... Up until I married my DH the 4and 5 year olds were drinking from sippy cups...and as for the older one he refuses tovwear non stretchy pants ..things I'd never let the kids go to school in she lets them....he is the messiest eater I've seen imean come the hell on you are 8.,, she is retarding the children...the girl doesn't know how to wipe her butt and instead wears poop in her pants...the mom chopped her hair off because she couldn't braid and my SD wanted her mom to do her hair like I do...the kids head is almost shaved now....I shouldn't have to deal with this stupid shit...anyone else go through stuff like this? And as for the hygene and the potty training is there something I can do legally? We have our 6 (combined bio and step) kid on the way my kids DONOT act like this nor we're they 5 and not potty trained...I shouldn't have to go back and teach elementary age kids toddler stuff.......ok done ranting for now