SD10 is just a mess on wheels. She is dirty. Doesn’t brush hair or teeth, doesn’t shower. We just found out that she doesn’t do any of these things at her moms (50/50) so sometimes she doesn’t do it FOR A WEEK. Her teeth are crusty with plaque and her hair is always stringy. Her nails are alwayS black underneath. We picked her up from school and she had a huge huuuuuge mustard stain on the front of her hoody— we suspect she picked up clothes from her moms dirty hamper, but either way she had no idea she was filthy. How the hell do you send your kid to school so filthy? And 10 is too old to make mistakes like that.... I’ve tried buying her special personal care products, toothpaste, body washes, hair products to no avail. I’m worried when she gets her period she is gonna be the stinky kid in school and kids will bully her.

Her newest gig is when she doesn’t wanna eat her food she will barf. She barfed at the table the last 2 times we took her to nice restaurants, and she can’t explain why, she just barfs right there. WTF!!!! She will blurt out what she wants to eat anywhere we go and then it just sits on her plate. Her baby sister (2) eats more than her. She asks for so much  food and it goes to waste.

She is a LIAR; she lies about if she’s bathed, or watever, and she’s constantly making up illnesses for attention. Stomach bug, headaches, earaches, whatever. Once we start suggesting going to the DR it magically stops. She lies about things so she can get her way. She’s so manipulative it’s incredible.

The drop that spilled the glass was last weekend, she was told to shower and take her sis with (in diapers) and when I went to brush my teeth before bed, the bathroom floor was soaked, soaked towels and clothes everywhere, and a DIRTY DIAPER left on the floor!!!! The trash is 2 f***ing ft away!!!

I told my man, I can’t deal with this kid, and her trashy mom which doesn’t give a shit about their kids behavior. We’ve been working on it for about 6 months, but I think if things don’t improve in the next 12 months, we won’t be able to move forward. I am a neat, clean, organized, socially aware and polite young adult with no kids or (imo) bad habits like lying or smelling like shit, interupting, cursing, or barfing at the dinner table for that matter. My parents were strict and didn’t fall for my bullshit (I couldn’t negotiate or argue, i could go cry in my room all i wanted without disturbing the rest of the family) and I had to ask to order food at restaurants, and if I didn’t wanna shower my mom would put me in there and start the cold water. I had chores and good grades, it was what was expected of me....................... I don't know how to help her improve.