I hid the spare car keys tonight...
So, DH is on his way home early tonight. I wonder if he is taking SD13 a half hour away to a LBGTQ support group. He did this for her a few times before the holidays. I asked him earlier in the week if he was taking her and he just blew it off, like he was tired and didn't want to do it. That was the first time I heard that from him. SD13 doesn't get home until 10pm from this group and 9pm is her bedtime.
SD13 hasn't showered since Saturday morning. LOL DH says she showered Sunday but I was in my room all day and doing laundry across the hall. Shower was not taken. I have kept quiet all week about showers. We've been down this road before. Every damn month it happens.
Funny thing is, DH likes to drive my car. So I took my spare key out of the kitchen. I am moving this "no shower" soap opera to the next level. If DH asks for my key, I will tell him he has to take his own car. I don't want a greasy headed kid riding in my new car. Why should I give in? Yes, I'm trying to prove a point that the two of them need to wake the fuck up already and SD13 needs to shower.
Last month I told her she was going to eventually get picked on for not taking care of herself. I told her that maybe she should be punished the next time she thinks its ok to go 5 days in between showers.
Damn she is cuckoo for cocoa puffs and needs help. My gf at work has a SS13 who never wants to shower and when he does he doesn't wash his hair. She told me I should find a nasty video on youtube of what happens when you don't shower. SD13 has even come to me recently saying she has bumps and itchy spots on her stomach. I replied to her, "Well it's either bedbugs because you don't wash your sheets or it's from not taking a shower." }:)
SD13 looks at me blankly and goes into full-on space cadet mode. I care for the kid and we get along most of the time, like friendly roommates would, but I don't hang out with her or do much for her. That all ended last summer when the disrespect ramped up. I am just stressed out because OSD19 has that damn hedgehog at school. I keep thinking I'm going to have to get DH's ass in gear to find a plan for the summer. I'm going to have to be the evil bitch. I already wear that hat around here, so what the hell, right?
And I'm the most sane one of the bunch. Is it that difficult to be responsible and do the right thing? FML already.
~ Moon
My DH also had the gene that
My DH also had the gene that allowed him to not smell the stench emanating from his kid, nor see the greasy hair plastered to his head. I will never get it.
Thankfully, FINALLY at 17 peer pressure has gotten the piglet to bathe. Laundry is another issue altogether.
DH isn't taking SD13 to the
DH isn't taking SD13 to the support group tonight -- they both probably forgot that it's Wednesday lol. So DH just made dinner and I didn't look at SD13 one time as I conversed with DH. SD13's hair is greasy and getting nasty. It's cut short like a boy's, because she wants to be a boy.
SD13 has been banned from using any other toilet in the house other than her own. This is because she left shit in/on two bowls a couple of weeks ago. In the span of two days. When DH was out of town. So, SD13 just came upstairs to use her bathroom and I was listening to see if she would start the shower for a scrub-a-dub. Nope. Finished her business and went downstairs again.
So, DH doesn't know I took the spare key and he won't need to drive my car tonight. So I'm just keeping quiet during this time that comes every night for SD13. You know the time. It's after dinner but before it's too late to shower? Too late is usually around 8pm for us. I've been really good at keeping my mouth shut. I don't know why I'm so engrossed in this charade--I guess because I wish DH and SD13 would wise up, but it's comical at this point. LOL
This could set a new record for SD13 and the no shower thing! How long have your skids gone in between showers and what did you do? Were you disengaged or riding their asses? LMAO
~ Moon
I'm not living with a pig. If
I'm not living with a pig. If SD stopped taking showers entirely, I'd put up a cot and a space heater in the garage and tell her to enjoy sleeping like a homeless person because she certainly enjoyed smelling like own. Now-- my DH would be all in support of that hard love approach. It sounds like your DH has no olfactory sense... LOL
Dtzy, would that be a SHUNion
Dtzy, would that be a SHUNion smell?
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Laughing at dtzy's "shit and
Laughing at dtzy's "shit and onions." LMAO SD13 doesn't have B.O. that I can smell, but sometimes IF I get close to her in passing, she smells like an old sock. Must be from no showers and that musty old dirty old sheets need to be washed smell, as well.
I looked in her bathroom on Sunday and told her and DH that they had missed trash day on Friday. I had her empty her trash and looked in the tub to see what soap she had. She has a teeny tiny trial size gift-sized 2-ounce bottle of bath gel. It looks like it's been used once.
Next phase will be that when she finally IF EVER takes a shower, let's see if she uses any bath gel!
GF at work said that her SS13 has a mentor-type person who comes to meet with SS at school 1x a week for an hour. They talk about grades, home life, responsibilities, etc. I'm thinking this would definitely be good for SD13, since she only got a C in her Life Skills class. That was way back in 6th grade, but things haven't improved. I might suggest DH look into this, I dunno.....
~ Moon
Play ball! Love this! I
Play ball! Love this! I have just have to keep it from DH too, because he needs to parent his kid. He came home early to watch sports tonight lol.
Still waiting for an RBI.......
~ Moon
OSD19 is away at college,
OSD19 is away at college, only an hour away, wish it was on anther planet. She was told NO to getting a hedgehog when she asked at Thanksgiving. She bought one anyway....... I can't stand her sense of entitlement. Read my post here.
http://www.steptalk.org/node/212611
EXACTLY! You must have my
EXACTLY! You must have my SD11.
SD13 knows not to whine or
SD13 knows not to whine or say no. That would be where OSD19 enters the picture. She is is the whiny, disrespectful, rude, entitled, enabled, immature, naive.....let's see what else......clueless, ungrateful, selfish, self-absorbed, dim-witted, goes-through-money-like-water, can only work 3 days a week over summer because it's too stressful, mini-wife......BRAT.
Yeah, I don't like her lol!
~ Moon
Just....EWWW! HHB was bad
Just....EWWW! HHB was bad enough with her unwashed clothing, lack of teeth brushing, non-sock wearing, non-butt wiping self! At least she stood in some running water every night! Seriously, what is it with these girls and hygiene?
And why do the DHs always want to take our cars? DH is the same way. When HHB was here, he always wanted to take my car to pick HHB up or take her somewhere! My thinking was HHB would complain about how uncomfortable DH's 2-seater is!
That is pretty gross...and
That is pretty gross...and yes I guarantee if she continues to not bathe herself...she will definitely get picked on...does she at least brush her teeth?
I dont blame you for hiding your keys and yes it is time for your DH and SD to wake the F-Up...not showering especially approaching menarche is just gross and unhealthy...at least shower every other day, see if you can compromise like that...ultimately it is up to your DH to get the point across.
Our agreement was Sunday
Our agreement was Sunday Tuesday Thursday. DH and I heard the shower come on this morning and I gave him the low down on everything. I told him the next time SD tells him "She'll shower tomorrow morning, " the next words out of his mouth need to be him asking, "When was the LAST time you showered?"
I told him he and SD13 need to get their shit together already. Next time I'm taking her gadgets and screen time! I told him it killed me to stay quiet, and I took the car keys, just in case. I also asked him if she used soap. He just blows it off, but I made sure that he planned on talking to her this morning.
More later, I'm at work......Oh, and SHE has started her periods, ever since September. Ew.
~ Moon
Military School. Those kids
Military School. Those kids will throw her a shower party the likes of which she will never forget. And never again will she "forget" to police her own body on a regular basis. }:)
My Skid had cleanliness issues but not because he did not bathe. He was just so frickin clueless and lazy he was washing his hair with an empty shampoo bottle. His hair would stink and just keep getting greasier and greasier. We would send him back to shower right after he finished because his hair stunk. Finally I went into trouble shooting mode and made him put on his bathing suit and get back in the shower while I watched him bathe. He would turn his shampoo bottle upside down over his head and squeeze. Nothing came out. It had probably been empty for months. The same problem with his body wash bottle. He turns it upside down over a wash puff and .... nothing comes out. He pretty much sleeps standing up in the shower so his brain was incapable of addressing the problem. So, no more body wash. He got good old fashioned bar soap and no more trendy teen shampoo ... he got whatever shampoo was available in a clear bottle.
No more greasy headed stanky teen.
Fortunately for him he had his hygiene issues worked out before we shipped him off to Military School.
I just checked the status of
I just checked the status of the itsy bitsy 2-ounce bottle of bath gel in the shower. It has the circumference of maybe a quarter, and the gel has been used. It has gone down about 2mm since I checked it on Sunday. What is she putting on her poof? DROPS of bath gel? This kid is a moron. I should make her take another shower tonight and get back on her schedule. DH will be home with dinner in a little while. I am so sick of this shit.
This skid can't wash herself on a regular basis, has a fear of bath gel, yet she wants to pay for her own new glasses because she doesn't like the ones she's got. It's all because she wants to be a boy. She wants to change everything. Oh and she's wearing the same jeans that her swamp ass sat in all week long, plus she played in the driveway yesterday. She's doing laundry today but she is wearing the same fucking pair of jeans right now.
I have a lot to discuss with DH and SD13 tonight at dinner. I may take her shit for a few days and cause an uproar.
Why are 13 years olds such morons these days? Oh I know! Too much screen time! I need to search youtube and find some helpful videos for her abut being a proper teen. I've even thought about having her write a 5-page report on why it's important to pay attention to hygiene.
Rags, I may have to have her bathe with her swimsuit on while I watch. Short of scrubbing her myself or getting a babysitter, it ain't gonna work!
~ Moon
DH and I made SD13 take
DH and I made SD13 take another shower tonight. DH told her to use soap and handed her a pack with 8 bars of soap. I had discussed the fear of bath gel at dinner and suggested a do-over. SD13 thought it was funny at first, but when she realized we weren't kidding, she got pissy. Fifteen minutes go by and no signs of life from upstairs. I sent DH up and told him to get her ass into the shower. That's when he gave her all of the soap.
I reminded DH that he would have to constantly monitor her. I am done. Shit, now I monitor DH, but he is changing for the better.
~ Moon
Good thing SD13 doesn't have
Good thing SD13 doesn't have B.O. -- yet, but it's coming. I also asked her if she had washed those jeans she was wearing? She said NO, to DH and I while we were eating. I replied, "So you haven't showered all week from Saturday until this morning, you're finally doing laundry because you ran out of underwear, but you're still wearing the SAME PAIR OF JEANS THAT YOUR SWAMP ASS SAT IN ALL WEEK LONG? Did you wear those jeans yesterday when you were playing outside?"
Giggles and goofy face from SD13. I told her she had better wash her jeans Friday after school. I told DH later that I'm so afraid she's going to get bullied in HS. It's enough that she wants to be a boy, but being stinky and juvenile won't cut it, either. I do feel bad for her. She stands out amongst other girls her age, not because of the boy identity, but in the way she carries herself. She looks like and has the demeanor of an unsure 7 year old.
OMG I am getting a nanny/housekeeper. From the military. LOL
~ Moon
Ty Sally. DH has a company
Ty Sally. DH has a company car and just like OSD19, leaves crap all over the inside of it. He's on the road a lot but that's no excuse not to clean as you go! My car is a new SUV that we've only had a few months, so he likes it for getting groceries. It's easier to load and unload.
I think I will insist that SD13 not ride in my car anymore until she maintains better habits with hygiene.
~ Moon
Just got home and she left
Just got home and she left the trashcan in the middle of the driveway. I asked her if she saw it and she mumbled "Yes," and then I told her to get her ass outside and bring it in. DH was on the phone with me and I was telling him she was 13, and she needs to wake up!
SD13 didn't do laundry again today as she was told to. I asked her to wash her swamp ass pants today and the belly bands for the dog. Nothing going on tonight. No signs of brain activity in between her two ears! If we get carry-out tonight for dinner, she can have a fucking kids meal, because she acts about 7!
~ Moon is pissed. Happy Friday.
DH got home and SD13 asked if
DH got home and SD13 asked if he would buy her a certain juice the next time he went to the store. He said no because it was entirely sugar.....and damnit I couldn't help but chime in. LOL I said, "You don't get to ask for anything until you WASH those pants you've been fermenting in for 3 weeks. Find another pair to wear. Do me a favor when you take your jeans off tonight. Hold the crotch up to your nose and see what it smells like." :jawdrop:
DH chimed in and agreed with the swamp ass. We were being sarcastic, but trying to get our point across to SD13. She said she would wash the jeans tonight. I reminded her that she should have done it yesterday or today after school. Well I can do it tomorrow. No, I need the washer for me and DH over the weekend.......It went back and forth. SD13 asked if she would have to wait until next Friday to wash her jeans. I told her we would work it in over the weekend, but on MY schedule.
Then I told her seriously, you need to grow up and start paying attention to your hygiene. SD13 exclaimed that she DID. I said you don't rinse your teeth and you're in braces, you have worn the same pair of jeans for 3 weeks and haven't showered for 5 day stretches, and you don't wash your sheets. My tone changed and I got serious and SD13 got pissy and quiet. DH said ok can we move on? I exclaimed NO, that SD13 should be the first one responsible for her hygiene, followed by DH and least of all me. I said SD13 wouldn't be welcome to sit at my dinner table if she pulled this shit again and didn't clean herself. I asked her how she would like it if I took all of her things for 2 weeks if she pulled this again? DH was stone silent, as usual. He started asking why I can't say something positive at that moment? I compliment SD13 when she takes initiative on things, like helping with the dogs, but DH isn't around. Which I told him. And she doesn't take initiative that often. She never does homework and is lucky she has Bs.
I told DH he needed to parent SD13 and that she has gone backwards. I told her that she acts 7 and a year ago she was a sharper kid. What happened? SD13 doesn't know. Next thing I know, SD13 takes a huge gulp of milk from her glass, can't handle it, chokes on it, starts laughing and its running down her chin and onto the floor. I guess she wanted more attention. WTF do I do? Ignore her completely? I have never been able to do that because she keeps fucking up my house. Grrrrrr.....
What a fucking mess. A FUCKING juvenile clueless MESS.
I didn't back down from DH's shit, though. I told them both to figure it out or move the fuck out already.
~ Moon