She lives with Mom, my fiance and the Mom were never married, she got preggo when he tried to leave years ago, they've been apart many years, and he was basically single, dated some. The child showed her you know what when she saw my ring, well he handled that and the Mom's threats, etc to me (she's nutz), I ignored the nonsense. The child is 16, the Mom will not work. She gets CS + spends the child's SS benefits f/the dad (the kid has told us this) and he pays their utility bills. He also pays for everything else, and I mean everything - school, gas, phone, insurance, medical, food, you name it. The child comes over 1 to 3 times per week with her hand out, that is the ONLY reason she goes over there. We do not live together. I work full-time and have my entire life, I am self-sufficient. The child was to get a job at 16; however, she has every excuse for NOT getting one. I'm at my wits end and it's pretty obv why I have chosen not to marry, but lately I'm depressed over the situation. How can someone possibly think it is okay to take, take, take and not be responsible? He works too  b/c he is young at heart but they don't seem to care that he is out in the heat and cold working, he's just the bank. Am I crazy for being upset over this?