SD nicks money (among other misbehaviour)
Hello.
I was widowed aged 37, I'm 44 now. I haven't got any kids by choice.
Last year I married a fellow widower and he's the best man this side of the tomb.
Trouble is, he comes complete with 2 daughters aged nearly 14 and 17.
The youngest has a very unpleasant character (self-centred, selfish, ruthless, thoughtless, rude, lazy, arrogant, pretentious and thick as a plank to boot) but I sussed that out early on so I knew what I was letting myself in for.
The problem is with the eldest - let's call her Connie.
At first, things were ok. Connie was pleased that her dad had met someone and welcomed me with a smile.
Then over the months Connie did misbehave - had unprotected sex when she had promised not to have sex at all, ran bills on her mobile, misbehaved at school, etc.
I did ask her if it was her way of protesting against my presence in her life but she said no.
On the 3rd January this year, after a phenomenal argument involving the youngest, the eldest took her to the local nick to say she was too scared to come home and that my husband beat her all the time.
Thankfully her statement was full of contradictions (well d'uh, it was all lies) and my husband's statement held water so her vile accusation didn't even go as far as the CPS.
(Non-British readers, the CPS is the crown prosecution service, the body which decides whether or not a case goes to a tribunal.)
They did come home after 3 days spent at their aunt's.
Anyway since then my husband and Connie have been followed by a social worker and yesterday things were looking up. Connie accepted to have a civilised conversation and it all seemed very positive.
Alas that evening my husband and I realised that money was missing from our wallets - £10 from mine and £20 from his.
It's not the first time Connie has nicked money - she's done it before and has been caught red-handed by my husband, with lots of tears and promises to never do it again, blah blah blah.
We have decided not to confront her as she would deny it - she would deny that the sun rises in the east if she had to.
Instead we now have a cash hidey hole in the house.
Thank you for reading my post.
Reading other people's posts helps me - I feel less lonely.
Get her on birth control. Do
Get her on birth control. Do it secretly from Daddy if you must the last thing any of you need is a infant. The Depo shot (link below) is good as she doesn't have to remember or do anything. You can keep schedule of the next one.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-contr...
Continue to hide the money.
Lonely? Lets get out of the house, church, library doings, clubs.
Hello and thank you for your
Hello and thank you for your reply.
Kindly, I would never do anything behind my husband's back.
We know she's seeing this lad whom we disapprove of as he's a control freak.
We do hope they use condoms - we once found one if her room so here's to hoping...
When I said I was feeling lonely, I meant as a step-parent with a difficult child. I do have a good social life.
However thank you for taking the time to write.
Regards,
Rainbow.
Hmmm, leave a note in your
Hmmm, leave a note in your wallets or usual 'hiding' place for money that say "Gotcha! I know it was you! Now go and get a job you lazy girl!"
Hello The nick is the police
Hello
The nick is the police station.
The CPS is the crown prosecution service. Cops decide whether or not to pass on a case to the CPS. If they do, then the CPS decides whether or not to take it to court.
Regards,
Rainbow.
And in the UK CPS obviously
And in the UK CPS obviously isn't JUST for issues regarding kids....
Hi Rainbow,
Welcome, I am sorry you are suffering but glad you have found us.
One positive is that your husband is supportive and can see/admit what his daughter is doing. That is a huge plus for you.
I like the idea of leaving a little "gotcha" note in your purse too... I also have a tea-leaf SD - mine is 13, and sometimes her dear daddy can admit it, and others he prefers the ostrich stance. Drives me crazy.