SS has abused me mentally, physically, and sexually
Bad day today, one minute I'm sad, angry, lonely,then a feeling of emptiness. How on earth am I going to be able to come to turns with this nightmare!!
I have been with my husband 10yrs, I will fast forward to 3 years ago when my husbands son came to live with us, he had not seen him for almost 4 years although his sister whose 5yrs older lived with us but he and his mother lived only 1/4 mile away and the mother alienated him from his dad. The daughter has always had contact with her mother and brother. She uprooted herself to move 200 miles away with her new husband and just basically dropped his son off saying she couldn't handle his behaviour anymore! Within days his 12 year old son was abusive to me, by 3 months he had assaulted me and from the off it became apparent he didn't go to school regular when residing with the mother either! Within 2 months living with us he had assaulted a teacher and was excluded and sent to a special school. He has been evaluated as having no mental issues and his sons knows right from wrong and knows what he is doing.
I left the marital home with his daughter after the assault over 2 yrs ago and live on the same street. I have tried my best over these years and listened to the promises and reassurances my husband has given me, I have engaged in family meals, activities etc all for it to be thrown in my face by his son. He is now recently 16yrs old he is taking drugs, stealing from his dad, selling things out of the house that belong to me etc etc. Things are now are at a stage where I can not even look, speak or be in the same room as his son because 5 months ago he sexually assaulted me.. I cannot understand my husband still living with him, I asked him to send him back to his mothers because this just can not go on as this is effecting everyone except his son.. I don't eat, sleep, spend my days crying...
At the time of the sex assault, my husband came home(to my home) his son had run off, he then returned 2 hrs later yelling in the street that he was going to kill himself so this was never resolved as yet again he became the victim saying he didn't know what he was doing that he was on drugs etc etc, this has eaten me up inside out and I have been unable to tell my husband how I really feel as all the focus has been on his son. This did come to ahead 2wks ago when I could no longer keep my feelings inside of how I felt.. I told him that I feel let down by my husband and very angry towards him, now he is saying "I did ask you at the time if you wanted to ring the police", now I can't recall this convo maybe cos I was in such shock and the attention went on my husband running after his son after him yelling he was going to kill himself! Im at a complete loss! 
I agree with tog. I would
I agree with tog. I would turn him in, its not to late, you don't deserve to be going through this at all.
This one is easy to resolve.
This one is easy to resolve. Put the little perverted bastard in prison. NOW!!! Don't think about it, just dial 911 immediately. If he makes the mistake of every touching you again apply a double tap of .45cal in his forehead and save society the pain of ever having to deal with him again. A double tap center mass is likely the correct way to go but probably not nearly as rewarding. Make sure to wait for him to lay a hand on you first though. You do not want to commit a crime when you put this POS pervert out of society's misery.
Your DH is doing nothing more than serving you up on a platter to his perverted little POS son and were I you I would own his ass too. Divorce him, take ever dime he will ever earn in pain and suffering and move on with your life.
You do not deserve this and you must take care of yourself since your POS husband choses not to.
IMHO of course.
Take care of yourself.
I'm with Rags on this one. If
I'm with Rags on this one. If this was DH's kid, DH would have shot him himself.
You don't deserve this but I am glad you took the little girl with you because. i shudder to think what her brother may do to her if left with him.
How old is this kid that
How old is this kid that "sexually assaulted you"??? Sorry, but something is off here. I do not understand what you mean by sexual assault. If he raped you I can't even begin to imagine why you are anywhere near this kid and why your husband didn't press charges. Sorry, none of this really makes sense to me.
The shock of the assault has
The shock of the assault has worn off and reality has set in. It is now time to tell your husband the boy is out of your life, you are going to the police and if your husband cannot support you, then it is in your best interests to let him go and be with his son . No right minded man tolerates his wife being sexually assaulted by anyone ESPECIALLY his own son. You have your own home, keep the boy out of it, do not go to your husbands home EVER, not even if the boy s out, you do not know for sure when he would come home.
It is now time for you to end this and start the wheels of change in motion.
I also agree with emotionally
I also agree with emotionally beat up.
I had gone to my husbands
I had gone to my husbands place as he had arranged to make us a meal, his ss was asleep in his room. After we had our meal my husband wanted to go out but I was watching TV and didn't want to go out, so I told my husband to go out and I would finish watching the programme at his place then meet him back at my place later. 20/30 mins later I was in his kitchen making coffee, when I was grabbed from behind, as I spun round I was confronted by ss who was trying to kiss me/grabbing me, touching me.......... I didn't report to police, I am/was confused, shocked, mortified, humiliated... I have been to my GP, I'm currently on medication, anti-depressants, counselling sessions & sleeping tablets. At this moment in time I can only concentrate on my health and well-being, hopefully when I am strong enough I will be able to deal with all the other serious issues and decisions that need to be made.
Janey61, you do t have the
Janey61, you do t have the luxury of waiting to feel better to report this kid. While you are recovering, which could take years, he is free to,do this to someone else. If he did it to you, his fathers wife and neither you or his father did anything about it, the message he got was it's okay to do this,
Perhaps facing the reality of this and taking action will not only save some other woman, or young girl. But it might be the very thing you need to help you recover.
You are not helping him by protecting him, and by not reporting this, that's what you're doing, protecting him. But, you are not helping yourself either. Call the police.
Todays update... SS went into
Todays update... SS went into school for exam after only 30mins he then turned ugly trashed the class room and physically assaulted 2 teachers, a case conference with school has been scheduled, father been informed he has now been permanently excluded from school, school also said they will be notifying police of the assaults to teachers and school vandalism. SS has absconded and father is now out looking for him.
Cos at the time I was in
Cos at the time I was in complete shock/horror confused.. then the ss was threatening to kill himself which became more confusing, like he was some sort of victim and in need of help???I know this dosn't make sense. I have reported this to my Doctor, and I have told my husband today that I will be informing the police and school authorities!
I couldn't agree more with
I couldn't agree more with Echo on this! You said he was 16? I can't help but wonder if there is some poor scared girl out there who he "dated" and then forced himself on her. This boy obviously does not care about anyone, and doesn't care what happens to him. Threatens to kill himself? Like Echo said...let them put him on suicide watch in jail! It is obvious your DH is not handling this appropriately, or he would have already had him locked up somewhere himself! If nothing is done, someone else will get hurt, and you will only blame yourself for what happens because you didn't take action. That will only make your personal recovery even harder! Think about your own safety and your own health. Tell DH if he wants you in his life, he will do something about his son, and I'm not talking about a lecture or something like that. It is time for some tough love here! As much as it would hurt, your DH needs to have the boy locked up!
You have told your husband
You have told your husband you WILL BE notifying the authorities. So have you. Did you get off the phone to your husband and ring the police. If not, why are you still putting it off. What are you getting out of not telling the authorities.
You need to divorce him and
You need to divorce him and move away. This kid has mental problems probably from the divorce and no being on drugs is only going to get worse. Leave now while you're still in one piece. I know you love him but this could cost you your life and the boy is always going to be in his fathers life - these type of problems never go completely away unless the kid dies.