How do I tell my partner I don't want his disruptive son who has ADHD to come on my birthday day out as I want it to just be the two of us and I don't want anything to go wrong as when his son is with us he will create a scene but screaming at his dad that he wishes his dad was dead and that he is a rubbish dad which obviously embarrasses my partner greatly.

Ok, first time here and not sure where to start so I will jump right in. My husband and SD have such a weird relationship IMO. Of course he sees no issues with it. She is 28 years old and most times dreeses very provocative whenever she knows she is going to him or us. I mean very provocative. What would be the reason to do that to see family? Right now, I can't even recall of the bizarre happenings over the course of 5 years together and 3.5 married but last nights was weird to me..... We were on separate ends of the sofa watching my favorite NFL team and he was on his phone A LOT.

Well let me give you a brief overview I am married to my DH for almost 2 years he has 2 teen daughters. SD one is 14 and an awesome person couldn't love her more. SD two is 13 and I don't know how to even start with her. Biomom died almost four years ago and was a shitty shitty psycho person. She had a lot of problems mental and physical. SD 14 hates her and wants me to adopt her. SD 13 is the epitome of evil. Just this past week she wrote a note at school that she got instutionalized for while she has been there barely any phone calls to my DH and she is supposed to get out on Sunday.