To recap the party was fine be it all very uncomfortable. I know what I got myself into with DH but the first two years we all were very separate for birthdays and everything. The only thing that brought us together was school and sports which is of course understandable and fine. However last year, 2 months before I became pregnant I asked if he wanted a big happy family w her her husband and her parents, in laws etc or would he have boundaries and keep it kind and cordial. He said boundaries, kind and cordial.