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2 tired's picture

Last week I wrote about how my life was so not cool because of the tension and stressful environment that I had to deal with at home because of the SD10.... I talked about how manipulative she was and how she has made my life unbearable when she is with us (her father and I). Well, last week I also posted about how I was done with this stressful relationship and that I was unwilling to get married because it would only get worse as she gets older…. A LOT HAS CHANGED SINCE that post... I did go and sign a lease to an apartment. Ironically however, I don’t know if it is me, her or even her dad. But since I signed the lease, we have all been getting along so WONDERFULLY. I haven’t told him that I have an apartment… A weight was lifted from my shoulders when I signed the lease, how happy I was and am. AS SOON AS I WASHED MY HANDS OF THEM, is when I was able to breathe again… and now we all get along well…. I wonder was it me this whole time being stressed because I didn’t have a safe haven, and now that I do has my attitude changed and is this why MY EXISTENCE AT HOME ISNT STRESSFUL AT ALL!!! When should I tell him? OR IS STILL ALL AN ILLUSION????

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2 tired's picture

we have been together for a year and a half.... i love them both... but it has been extremely rough since august of this year.... and for the first time since then i am EXHALING

prayerhelps's picture

looked back at your other blogs 2tired. Now would be a good time to have that one-on-one chat w/FDH to see about setting house rules and expectations of all (including you and FDH). IF this is worth fighting for. I strongly would also look at maybe a Blended family counselor for the two of you to go to before any wedding bells, because it is hard, and both of you need to have your eyes WIDE OPEN before you proceed any further, especially since you already have on foot out the door.

2 tired's picture

thank you for your advice. its really helpful.... i love the SD and the FDH, but i refuse to feel like i am walking on egg shells at home.... i am so torn with everything now, this weekend was the best weekend we have had in 4or 5 months.... IT WAS STRESS-FREE....

Ani's picture

OMG .....I feel just like you my SS12.5 makes me not want to get marry to his dad.........since I moved in with my boyfriend this been hell on wheels....with the SS12.5.....I would not tell your boyfriend that you have a place yet see how things go 1st.....good luck....hugs Ani

2 tired's picture

thank you .... with me knowing that i have an escape (an Apartment) i feel so calm... becuz at the end of the day if its too much to endure, i have a place to go at a drop of a hat.... emotionally i feel like i have my own stability back.. my SD is so jealous of me, she is spiteful with her actions and my FDH just doesnt see it or want to see it... i love them both but i feel like they require so much of my energy just to get through the nights when she is home..