New to this so here goes....DH and I have been married a year.  I have 3 skids, SS16, SD16 (twins) and SS15.  It has not been an easy transition for DH and I or skids and I.  I expect hellos, good-byes and help cleaning after dinner.  Terrible.  I am usually the last to know what is going on, though DH is working on that.  BM is erratic, abrasive and demanding.  DH usually gives in to keep the peace - drives me crazy.